To the Mom Who Did It All 20+ Years Later

To the Mom Who Did It All 20+ Years Later

This is the congratulations that you deserve. The thank you for showing me that no matter what life throws at you and no matter how tough things may get, that you can still find some way to push through it all and come out stronger.

You didn’t have the normal life; graduate 8th grade, go off to high school, then graduate and go to college, meet a guy, fall in love, and start a family. Instead, your family started in high school. There was no graduating and college. No perfect guy. You had your first kid when you were still one yourself. That’s one of the biggest challenges you encountered that caused you to start the life everyone leads 20 years later.

You then met my father and got pregnant with me. That postponed whatever opportunity you may have had to pick back up the lasso and get back on the horse. However, you did it anyway. You still had me. Rather than trying to take the life that others deemed right, you choose me; you got on a different horse.

I know it was never easy for you. While you may have come and gone in your first two children’s lives, you came around when things were right. Yeah, there were bumps in the road and during those tough times you weren’t as present and even though that hurt at times, I knew there was part of you with me and that you were trying to do what was best for you which ultimately would be best for your children. Then came my half brother.

Seeing him be the motivator and the apple of your eye made me happy. To see you finally have that drive within you made me proud. Even though you may have had a couple bad seeds looting the garden which caused about a year set back total, you still did it.

So this one is for you. To the mom who did it all 20+ years later.

I am so proud of you. To see all those tough times you went through in life and to see you now, I am thrilled to see you finally be who you are. That you finally overcame all those things and people who were holding you back and get what you deserved.

I cannot believe how happy I am for you. How happy I am that you dropped that 200 pounds of weight and got your degree instead. That you persevered and pulled through when only a few of us knew you could.

So, this is the congratulations that you deserve. The thank you for showing me that no matter what life throws at you and no matter how tough things may get, that you can still find some way to push through it all and come out stronger.

“So mom. I am extremely sorry that I wasn’t able to get out of work and be there for your big day. I just wanted to let you know how proud I am of you. These past few years have had their ups and downs yet you never let that tear you away from school and chasing what you wanted. You persevered in way that I admire. I know it has been tough but you did it. You did it, mom, and I could not be more thrilled and happy for you. I know you’ll continue to be strong and I know you’ll find an amazing job and won’t stop till you do because that’s who you are. You’re someone who doesn’t stop. You don’t stop fighting. Don’t ever lose that. I am so proud of you. Smile big and proud, you deserve this.”

You waited 20+ years to start and finish your education. I can’t wait to see you prove to those who thought you couldn’t do it that it doesn’t matter when you get it done, that you can do amazing either way. I love you, mom. Keep your head up and keep moving forward. Be proud to look people in the eye and say, “I did it”.

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5 Reasons To Dropout Of College

Because let's be serious, you probably thought about it once or twice

Being in college is a wonderful experience. It is like being stuck at a really expensive camp. Your roommate is nothing more than your bunkmate. Your room is your tent. The RAs are the camp counselors. Those tuition and fees are your camp deposits. Have you ever thought about leaving camp ? Here are five reasons why I would probably drop out:

1. The workload is ridiculous

In college, it seems like the work never stops. I finish one assignment and another magically appears. Have you ever finished an eight page paper and then made the mistake of looking at blackboard right after? I do not know when all of my professors meet up, and decide to assign huge papers due all in the same week, but I know they are doing it. It has happened so many times that it just cannot be coincidence anymore!!

2. What happened to the clocks ?

Maybe it is just the clocks that I look at, but it seems like time moves super slow when I am in class. My one hour lectures have been lasting for three hours, but I feel like I am the only one noticing it. Sadly, time never goes that slow outside of class. Those three hours I have to finish that paper due at 11:59 has somehow turned into three minutes and I only have my name on the paper.

3. People are awful

This is true in college and in the real world, but it seems like it is easier to notice on campus. Do not get me wrong I know that there are good people out there, but it seems like I run into them a lot less than I should. It seems that I attract those awesome people who do not know how to hold the door or how to say “thank you”. On a college campus where many of us are sleep deprived and always in need of a coffee, you would think that everyone would go the extra mile to be a little nicer, but they do not.

4. Why are my pockets so light ?

I do not know how I did it, but in high school I could actually buy stuff. Now, I am not saying that I was renting hotels and able to pay the rent for my parents, but I was at least able to pay for lunch every day. In college, it seems like my money is evaporating. I did not realize how bad it was until I went to buy a small hot chocolate in the cafe, and I had to send a silent prayer that my card would go through. It went through, but when I checked my account, let’s just say that it was a good thing that I did not attempt to buy anything else.

5. Will these forehead wrinkles ever go away ?

College is greater than or equal to stress. The other day I looked in the mirror and almost screamed. There are two of the deepest forehead wrinkles I have ever seen on someone younger than thirty sitting on my brow. I do not know when they got there, but they are definitely there. The forehead wrinkles did not come alone, they brought luggage. The cute pair of brown bags that sit under each of my eyes really accentuates the wrinkles in my forehead.

There it is, five reasons why I would probably drop out of college. Do not get me wrong, I will not do it, but I have to be honest and say that I have thought about it.

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