To the guy who never put me first,

Well, from the beginning I was never a priority to you. I’m not saying I had to be the number one thing in your life at all times, but when it came to going out, yeah I would have appreciated being put first at least a few times. But no, that wasn’t you. I didn’t see it at first, so guess that part is on me. I was too naïve to see what was right in front of me the whole time. I tried so hard to believe you were something else. It always had to be what you wanted, when you wanted and how you wanted. From something as simple as picking a movie to going out on a date, it never mattered what I wanted to watch or what I wanted to do. You got to choose. Controlling, much? I think so.

Now why I stuck around so long is beyond me. I’m still trying to figure it out. Sure you were nice, super sweet, and acted like you cared about my well-being, but did you really? Or did you just say what I wanted to hear? I guess I’ll never know for sure. You were never one to tell the truth or tell me how you felt. It was always a guessing game that led to an argument. It’s pretty silly that we had to argue about how we felt about one another, but that’s who you were and who you’ll always be.

It took me long enough to see that you’re never going to put anybody first. There were countless times that your mother could’ve used your help with household duties, but you thought she could handle it by herself as you sat around and played video games. I realized then that that’s not what I wanted in a guy. I want someone like my dad, who will put his family first before his own agenda; a guy who will actually appreciate me and do anything to make me happy. Not someone who just sits back and doesn’t care if I’m happy or not. A relationship is a mutual thing. In order for it to work, you have to give a little to get a little. After all, isn’t their happiness your happiness?

I remember you quit talking to me all of a sudden, and I asked what was up and you told me that you “had better things to do like fishing.” Really? You’re going to put a fish above someone you supposedly cared about? I guess inviting me to go with you, since I enjoy fishing myself, was just too much of a hassle for you. That is not what I want in a relationship. I want to do things that we enjoy together. I mean, isn’t that kind of the point of being in a relationship?

You know, I feel sorry for whoever you decide to marry, if that ever happens, because I don’t know many women that would put up with not getting what they want. I hope you figure that out in time. Until then, I actually want to thank you. Thank you for helping me realize what I want in a guy and showing me that that guy wasn’t you before I stuck around too much longer.

To all the ladies out there in the same situation, walk away before it's too late.