To the girl who is always competing,

We all know that one girl in the group that makes everything a competition when frankly nobody is competing. It is hard to put into words why a girl will compete with her friends instead of building them up but I for one, have experienced this first hand. Being in a competition that I had no idea I was even competing in.

Why is it necessary to embarrass your friends when sitting in a group of guys?? None of your friends want you to point them out in a crowd to be brutally embarrassed, so why do girls continue to bash their friends? Build them up, be proud of your girls! Talk highly about them and let how proud you are of your friends be a characteristic of beauty within you!

Why is it necessary to judge your friends for the mistakes they have made? Every one makes mistakes and nine times out of ten your hands are not the cleanest either, life is a learning experience and you have to be there for them when times get rough. Do not bash them, do not go tell the world. Tell them it is okay and your mistakes make you who you are. If you secretly find joy in your friend’s failure you need to reevaluate who you are, that is a bigger issue.

Why do you go out of your way to be in the spot light? Let people come to you and show interest in you, do not be the loudest just so that group of guys across the room will notice you. Let you walking by or having a good time with your friends be what interests them in you, do not beg for the attention because if you have to beg for it you are going to soon realize that you never really wanted it.

Your friend’s flaws that you point out cannot be solely what you build your confidence on. You must have confidence in yourself and be happy with everything you have.

You may think you are in competition with all of the females around you when in all actuality you are in competition with loving yourself. Find yourself, love yourself and be who you really are. You are always going to have insecurities because everyone does but do not let them bring you down, let your true beauty radiate the people around you because there will always be someone you think is prettier than you but no matter what you must learn to love and be content with what you have.

Us girls have to stick together, we have to have each others backs and never let boys especially drive wedges in between friendships, so stop competing with your girls and stop feeling like you are less of that independent beautiful girl in the group and become her. Love yourself, because I promise you are going to have a lot more fun once you drop out of the competition.