WARNING: In no way or form am I stereotyping all gay men to automatically being the gay best friend. If you are offended I am terribly sorry.
There's always that one guy in a girl’s life that's smart, sophisticated, funny, and good looking. That one guy you want to show off to the world. He's everything you would want in a guy; except he's gay.
*True Life: I am in love with my gay best friend*
Gay best friends are perceived as being a very feminine male who are into fashion or gets overly disgusted over something minor. Not all gay men are associated with - cleanliness, interior design/decorating, or the occasionally tag along to Forever21 for fashion advice. That is the way television shows have stereotyped and programmed gay men into our brains. Boy were they wrong.
The first day you meet him; you knew. It was a friendship that would last a life time. You started hanging out with him more and more. They quickly picked up on your annoying habits and tiny little quirks. You would go on weekly lunch dates and nights out on the town. He would be brutally honest about your appearance or told you things you didn't want to hear but knew you should; things others wee to scared to say. They accept you for who you really are.
You slowly find yourself falling for your best friend. This isn't like any crush; simply because he's not interested in 'your kind'. Not only that, this love isn't even sexual either. You're in love with their mind and soul. You're in love with his crooked smile, the way his eyes glisten when he sees the food coming to the table. Not to mention his family. You love when people ask if y'all are together and you jokingly put on a show to entertain.
To the girl who fell in love with her gay best friend, you will always love him. He is that guy you thought you wanted to give yourself fully to. Your mind and soul; everything. Nothing kills you more inside knowing you can't have what you want. I know that sometimes you wish he was straight and into you but this is secretly a blessing in disguise. You'll never get into those over exaggerated couple fights over jealousy or insecurities. They will forever be in your life. In the plus side, giving him a piece of your soul is so much better than giving him a piece of your heart. Hearts get broken easily but souls are eternal.
As of now, I have been best friend with my mystery guy for about three years. Till this very day I have not told him how I felt until now. It will not be a surprise to most since it's obvious. He's one of the most important people in my life. He has truly shown me -apart from my father, how a women should be treated. I am forever grateful for the impact he has made in my life.
