To the girl who compares herself to her boyfriend's ex,

I'm sorry he told you about his ex. I'm sorry you had the urge to look her up on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and all her other social media accounts. I'm sorry you looked back at all of her pictures with him just to see them happy together. I'm sorry you got jealous and your heart dropped down to your stomach when you saw them.

I'm sorry you had to have that jealousy talk with him. I'm sorry he doesn't understand exactly how you feel. I'm sorry you compared your relationship to the one that he once had with her.

I'm sorry you've cried over this. I'm sorry you wasted your time on trying to figure things out about her. I'm sorry you've had multiple arguments about this with your boyfriend. I'm sorry you feel like she's in your relationship. I'm sorry you always have to put on an act when you see her in public. I'm sorry you want to die on the inside every time he's around her again, and I'm sorry you can't do anything about that feeling.

But, ladies, it's time to stop comparing yourself to her. You are gorgeous! You are not his ex. You are his girlfriend whom he loves and adores! You don't need to give her the power to make you feel bad. You don't need to open up a door he closed for a good reason. You are worth more than you think you are to him. He doesn't like her anymore. He chose you for a reason! She is not in his life anymore, so there's no reason for her to be in it again. Why ruin a relationship over her? You are what he wants, or else they'd still be together.

I know when you get to a certain age in the dating world, you probably aren't going to be his "firsts" and it's hard to grasp that feeling. I'm here to tell you it's OK! We all have a past and some baggage, but that doesn't mean we have to carry it on in the next chapter of our lives. It's impossible to change the past no matter how badly we want to. Only you can decide if it's going to dictate the future.

Look in the mirror, smile and say out loud you are a daughter of god and he made you in his image. Therefore, you are incredibly gorgeous.

As crazy as it sounds you should be thankful for his ex because she helped shape him into the man he is today.