Anyone who has ever met me will tell you that I’m boy crazy. I like to look and pick out who I think is attractive and honestly, I don’t think I ever shut up about them. With that said I don’t date often for one main reason: I want a nice, good guy. After some trial and errors, I realize that I don’t want to settle for anything less and I don’t think you should either.
In high school I had one friend in particular. This girl was beautiful, got along with everyone, smart and outgoing, and radiated confidence. Sometimes, I have to admit, I was kind of jealous of her. One reason especially because she always had a boyfriend. I’m not exaggerating when I say guys, for some reason, would literally drop to her feet. Everywhere we went someone would be hitting on her, my best friend even had a huge crush on her and sometimes I felt like the ugly duckling or the third wheel. Now I realize I never really looked at the guys she attracted. I watched her go through multiple boyfriends in the 4 years of high school each one worse than the next and looking back I see that it was because she grew dependent on her boyfriend. Not each guy, but just the idea of having one.
The boys my friend dated were rude, mean, and stupid, to put it bluntly. They treated her like total dirt sometimes and she let them do it because she felt like she was being loved. And when she finally did find a genuinely nice guy she became worried that he was going to wake up one day and suddenly not want her. She was insecure. As confident as she made herself out to be, she wasn’t at all when it came to loving herself and treating herself right.
To quote Dr. Love, “To love others you must first love yourself.” You need to have self-respect and standards. Each person will have a different definition of this, but hopefully every girl will see their self-worth before it’s too late. Guys that seem to be genuine and nice end up being total jerks, but you can’t let that get you down. Every rejection or failed relationship you have you should look at it as just another lesson learned instead of it being another guy that makes you insecure.
To the girl who always feels like she needs a man here’s my advice: you don't. You don’t need anyone to complete you or make you you. Don’t jump around from man to man just to fill some invisible void. Turn to family and friends when you need someone to lean on, but most importantly turn to yourself. Because you are amazing. You deserve a special guy who makes you feel like a princess. Don’t settle for anything less. Don’t make yourself believe that you need someone who is beneath you. Aim high and shoot for the stars because you are worth it. Every single one of you beautiful ladies are worth it. I hope this helps in your future.
