Maybe you don't care you're labeled that. Or maybe you do. Maybe you have been hooking up with a lot of guys. Or maybe you come off as "easy" because of the way you dress. Maybe you just got out of a long-term relationship and just wanna have some fun. Or maybe you're a little boy-crazy. Maybe you're a real catch-- c'mon, what guy doesn't want you?
Here's what I do know: these people don't know anything about you.
We live in a culture that is utterly obsessed with other people's hookup lives. If your best friend hooks up with the guy she's been pining for weeks, the group chat will explode within seconds. If that girl you don't like in your sorority is hooking up with that guy you merely LOOKED AT at a party last year, it will become the hot topic of the night at dinner. We judge each other over and over and over but half the time we don't even know the real story or we completely amplify the drama.
No one should ever be called "the easy hookup" because it's not your place to decide that. I know that the guys thrive on these kinds of girls but it's kind of sad that they use this label and wrong sense of a person to either judge them or hook up with girls just because they think they won't get shut down. Just because she hooked up with your roommate and some other friend doesn't mean you can assume she sleeps around.
And what's the point in girl-shaming? For that matter, what even qualifies for a girl to be "the easy hookup"? Does she have to hook up every weekend, five boys a night or only wear short, tight skirts? While society hints at what makes it on the slutty scale, we're pretty much just creating our own ways of measuring it or following the group consensus.
If you've ever been labeled this, please take it with a grain of salt. Understand that the hookup culture is ridiculous in general and you shouldn't care about anyone else's opinion. As college students, making dumb, irrational decisions night after night is WHAT WE DO FOR A LIVING. We get judged all the time, so this should be no different.
You have no idea if the girl that hooks up all the time had a messed up childhood or if she has an eating disorder or got her heart broken by her boyfriend. Or if she's plain and simple doing her. You don't know a thing. All you know is that you see this girl on the dance floor every weekend or in someone's Snapchat story with her tongue down some guy's mouth and you think "OMG she's such a slut." And then every guy there thinks, "She's such an easy hookup."
We're better than this. We shouldn't judge girls who hook up a lot just for the purpose of gossiping or as a way to deal with our insecurities. We don't have to agree with it, but we definitely don't need to create labels either.
You're not "the easy hookup." You're just a hookup. End of story.
