To The Friendships I Made "Mistakes" In
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To The Friendships I Made "Mistakes" In

An open letter to all the friends who forgave or have been forgiven.

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To The Friendships I Made "Mistakes" In
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To all the friends who have forgiven someone and their mistakes,

I'm not perfect, and I know too well that it is very easy to make the same mistake twice. Messing up is a part of life and sometimes we screw up a lot more than we would like to. They say that as long as we learn from our mistakes they are worth making, but what if you make the same one twice?

It doesn't seem very logical to do the same wrong thing repeatedly, but unfortunately, it happens. It's safe to say that life is a roller coaster of unpredictable events that come with fluctuating emotions, and it can sometimes seem like too much to handle. We quickly realize that it's hard to balance everything, but then we soon find out it's even harder to balance everyone.

If you're like me, a constant problem we face is trying to please everyone else. Some say it's a flaw, but it's not the worse kind of flaw you could have. There's nothing wrong with wanting to see someone else happy, but if you have to sacrifice your own feelings or desires in the process, the situation needs to be reevaluated. It's a fact that if you want to be strong you must learn to stand alone and put yourself first.

Being alone allows you to learn a lot about yourself, but you also remember all that you miss. It's hard to be alone and not wish that you could heal the hurting ones you love. That's practically the reason why you're always so eager to put the feelings of others before you're own. It's much easier to hurt than watch the ones you love hurt, especially when you're the reason for their pain.

So, now you made a mistake, maybe even the same one twice and someone else is hurting because of you. That is an unbearable feeling that doesn't just go away on it's own. It is a constant ache in your heart that you can't escape.

The worst feeling in the world is now knowing you messed up, you hurt your friend, you can't go back to change your actions, and you won't know if you're forgiven. Mistakes happen and we hope that our friends will find the ability to forgive us, but we don't always get that lucky. It's hard to say what any one outcome will be because every friendship and every person is different. But if you are forgiven you will be the luckiest person alive.

Finding the strength to spread forgiveness is not easy. Be conscious, be careful and be loyal to those that found the ability to oversee your flaws and value your friendship. And for all those of you who were able to forgive, you are appreciated for giving second chances and allowing your friendships to expand despite the recent lack of trust.

The worst part is that no one can promise you it won't happen again. They can tell you they hope and even try to convince themselves never again, but the sad truth is that there is a decent amount of uncertainty. In this world of uncertainty, you still forgave them, so thank you.

From the ones who make mistakes way too often.

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