To The Friends I Feel Like I'm Losing, I'll Always Be Here

To The Friends I Feel Like I'm Losing, I'll Always Be Here

Sometimes it feels like we're losing each other, but I hope you know I'm always around.


Sometimes I feel like I'm losing everyone around me, and I'm not sure if it's because I feel really sad and alone sometimes, or if it's because of the period I'm at in my life.

All of my friends seem to be moving on with their lives, as if they have it so easy, and I feel stuck. I feel like I can't even tell my friends the new and exciting things in my life anymore because I always feel pushed to the side. Sometimes I have to remind myself that I'm just as important, and I don't need anyone else to feel excited for me to feel excited for myself.

It's hard for me to relate to other people that are my age sometimes, and it makes me feel like something is wrong with me. I don't care about partying, or who hooked up with who, or any other drama. I don't care about other people's classes, or how hard work was that day or anything that isn't going to be an actual problem in the future. Lately, it's been hard to care for myself, and with car issues, my own classes and jobs, and the overwhelming amount of health issues I've been dealing with lately, it's really hard to try to care about problems that seem so minimal. I know everyone has their own problems, but when I can barely deal with my own, it's hard to be there for other people. Sometimes I just wish that people would ask to vent or dump their problems on you before they went ahead and did it, so they would know what mental state I was in. I don't want to be an insensitive asshole, but when you don't check in first, that makes you the insensitive asshole.

But I am. I want my friends to know I'll always care, but it's hard for me to show it, and sometimes I need them to know that I'm also working through stuff that no one really understands right now.

I want my friends that are in relationships to know that I am happy for them, and I'm okay when they reschedule plans with me to spend time with their significant others, but I don't want to hear weird jokes about me being the single friend or weird low-blows about my commitment issues that everyone wants to pass off as jokes. I don't need anyone in my life to make me feel happy, and it makes me uncomfortable that you have that mindset. I'm your friend and all, but don't pull me into that weird shit.

Things change as we get older, and I'm okay with that. I know I'm going to lose friends, in more than one way, and that's just life. But to the friends I know will always be my friends, I'm here for you and your problems even when I'm working through my own. Life seems hard, and life gets hard, but don't ever think you have to go through it alone.

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To The Girl Who Just Can't Seem To Figure It Out

You have to figure yourself out, before you can figure anything else out.


I know, ever since you were a little girl you had a big plan mapped out of the broad future ahead of you. Every year for Halloween you wore the same costume of your future career choice and never once doubted that in 15 years you would be living out your dream.

Well, the timer is ticking on those 15 years and you might be finding yourself nowhere near where you thought you would be. I have switched my major a total of 4 times since I got to college.

If anyone knows anything about figuring out their future- please let me know because it is 100%, not me. However, something that I have 'figured out' is that by the time my head hits the pillow by the end of every night, a new lesson has been learned that I need to reflect on. I am still learning in every aspect of life, and you are still learning too.

I know that the thought of letting people down (especially your parents) is constantly in the back of your mind. It just adds to the unwanted stress and confusion that is constantly running through your head, to begin with. It is so important to not let the opinions of others consume and define who you are.

Some people just need a little extra time before things click and make sense. Those who do not understand that are people that should not be dwelled on.

I am here to tell the girl who is struggling to find her calling and her purpose in this world that you are not alone and that it is okay to be confused. It can be hard to watch your roommates or what seems like everyone else around you have such clear plans and realistic futures lined up for themselves. It is easy to feel like you are falling behind when you compare your life to others.

The cold, hard truth is that you have to figure yourself out before you can figure anything else out.

I want you to know that it is going to get better and more clear with time. The journey of self-discovery is one of the toughest journeys that you (and myself) will go through in maturing to adulthood. It is confusing, anything but pretty, and will beat you to your knees time after time. But somewhere along the line, you will slowly start to find your true colors and learn that what makes you tick in life can actually be something you have a passion for.

You learn what gets your adrenaline pumping and you chase after that feeling because it gives you a zest for life. You learn what scares you and you use that fear to drive you to success. But most importantly, you learn that as much as the timer to those 15 years might be running out, the timer to the rest of your life is far from ending anytime soon. (God willing).

To the girl who just can't seem to figure it out, I know it seems impossible, but one day you and I both will. The most important thing that we can do in the meantime is just to grow as much as we can. Make yourself vulnerable, create opportunities through the confidence you have from deep inside, and always put yourself out there.

Self-discovery will only come from experience, adventure, and growth that will develop with time and maturity.

Life for us is always a marathon instead of a sprint. Along the way we might get passed by others, trip and fall, or need a chance to slow down and walk up that hill every once in a while, but I know that by the time we cross that finish line it is going to be more amazing and rewarding than we ever imagined possible.

It might not seem like it now, but one day (believe it or not) that costume will turn into a uniform. The uniform might be far from what you imagined it would have been 15 years ago, but that is the funny thing about not having life figured out just yet. For girls like us, life never goes as planned- ever. However, one day you're going to wake up, put that ironed uniform on, look in the mirror and smile at how far you have come.

The truth is, no one on all of the planet earth really has life truly 'figured out'. So if anything, we are the girls who decided to take the extra time in life to really find our true passion and try and make sense of it all. I really think there is something to be said about that.

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How Nazis Destroyed The Early LGBTQ+ Movement

Berlin was once the center for the LGBTQ+ movement. Was.


Many people are unaware of the LGBTQ+ movement before Stonewall. Broad accusations of queer identities becoming "trendy" are often debated without an in-depth discussion of life before the nuclear family.

There is a reason for this lack of contextual factors. And it's not a happy one. Simon LeVay, neuroscience known for his work with gay men, claims that "America was not the birthplace of the gay-rights movement." Berlin was. Was.

The erasure of LGBTQ+ people, especially transgender people, has been amplified through historical revisionism and censorship throughout the years. An example? The Berlin book burning.

The Berlin book burnings occurred in May 1993, by German university students. This was the largest of the orchestrated burnings, but many occurred throughout the nation. These burnings targeted literature that did not fit within Nazi standards or had "un-German spirit." Many of these works were written and published by Jewish authors. The propaganda minister, Joseph Goebbels, claimed: "The era of extreme Jewish intellectualism has come to an end."

Magnus Hirschfield, a sexologist, was one of the many authors who would see the flames of censorship seize his work. Hirschfield formed the Scientific-Humanitarian Committee, dedicated to the social recognition of LGBTQ+ individuals. It was the first queer advocacy group, ever.

Hirshcfield, along with Arnold Kronfeld, also ran the Institut für Sexualwissenschaft, or loosely translated, Institute of Sexology. Hirschfield pioneered the term "transsexualism," and many transgender people were both clients and employees of the Institute, and presented at conferences. The Institute also provided gender-affirming surgeries -- The "Danish Girl," Lili Elbe, underwent surgery here.

In early Berlin, LGBTQ+ magazines existed. LGBTQ+ bars, bookstores, and travel guides existed. Berlin was the birthplace of the LGBTQ+ movement, and many individuals thrived despite laws against homosexuality.

But this all changed when the Nazis came into power.

On May 6, students broke into The Institute and stole the archives of the library, including 12,000+ books. Only four days later, they were destroyed in the burning.

After Nazism took full reign in Germany, life changed completely for LGBTQ+ individuals. An estimated 100,000 men were arrested for homosexuality under Nazi Germany. Up to 15,000 of these men ended up in concentration camps.

We have lost countless, irreplaceable research due to Nazism. We have lost countless, irreplaceable lives due to Nazism.

And we can't let this happen again. With the rise of the far-right, with the passage of laws targeting LGBTQ+ people under the Trump administration, we are losing the progress we've made over the past several years.

So educate yourself on LGBTQ+ history. Speak out against bigotry.

The more education we provide, the less power bigotry will have.

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