The time of the year where being single sticks out like a sore thumb has arrived. When fall and winter calls for you to be coupled up just to get the most out of it. Where you can't walk down the street without seeing a Kodak moment of a couple madly in love. That is the definition of what " the cuffing season," is. The time you will be drowned in all of the love in the air. So ask yourself this, are you breathing in the same air or holding your breathe? Think about it.
Trust me when I tell you that I've been in your position. Where I hated all of the stupid love songs that sat on repeat. Where I hated every couple that I seen posting their traditional pictures for the holidays. It made me want to gag and at the same time run to my bed and cry my eyes out. It was a harsh reminder that I was still alone and hadn't been lucky enough to find my soul mate. It literally felt like we were stuck on valentines day for those months straight. So it came to the point where I didn't want to celebrate anything for that time of the year. Walking around, I would feel like the Grinch and the Scrooge all in one. But nobody knew because I became that good at hiding things..This is not how I want you guys to be.
Yes, emotions will be high in the lovey dovey department but don't make it a time to dwell on what you don't have. But rather, what you do have in life right now. You are a strong woman for being able to hold the title "single" in a society that makes it out to be a horrible thing. Be the one to show others that being in this stage can be the most glorious time of your life. Take the love in the air and show more of it to your family, friends, and hell even to a stranger you pass by.
It will take too much energy out of you to act bitter. Instead, soak in all of the love that is around you. Make this time a time for self love. That is a big thing that I try to preach on especially while being single. What better time to dig deeper and strive to be the best version of yourself than while love is in the air. Don't feel sorry for yourself and get all sad. See the couples around you as proof that true love does exist. Make it bring back hope for love shooting your way.
Look at it this way, you don't have to split anytime between two families. You don't have to share the only cozy blanket in the house with anyone. You don't have to worry for weeks on about what presents to buy them. You can decorate the house however you like without anyone else's opinions. Most importantly, you can scarf down all of the leftover foods you want without any judgment. So whose to say we are the ones who are missing out?
This season when you see a couple holding hands while trying to make it out of the corn maize alive or a couple kissing under a mistletoe, smile. Smile big for them proving that in todays world love still exists. Your time will come. Don't ever give up hope on that. True love is meant to fall on your lap when you least expect it. So don't go out and search for it. "That's why they call it falling in love because you don't force yourself to fall, you just fall." - unknown
"Cheer up sweet beautiful girl, you are going to love again, and it will be magnificent" - Unknown. In the meantime, use this "cuffing season" as a time to focus on YOU. The person you should forever be in love with is yourself. Never feel the need to have somebody by your side. So go and enjoy picking the smallest pumpkin you can find; Decorate your Christmas tree with all the sparkly ornaments possible and enjoy staying inside watching the snowflakes fall on your windows with Ben & Jerry by your side.
It's time you start making memories and traditions on your own. Nobody is better company than yourself. So here's to surviving this "cuffing season." Now somebody pass me a glass of wine.
