Seeing a friend broken hearted is one of the most painful things to see. You can give all the advice in the world and be there for them but the broken heart is still there. Knowing you can't make them feel better just really sucks to be honest. We have all been on the other side with the broken heart and to know that someone else is going through it hurts just as much. We can say all the right things and get their mind off of it but the reality of it is that they have to heal on their own. Self love is so important. Seeing someone so happy in a relationship but knowing the actions of the other person is hurting them so much makes it hard. It's like they are the happiest they have ever been but the most broken at the same time and that's a difficult thing. I've been in the same boat. How crazy is it that they can make you so happy but make you so sad? We all try to be the strong person that doesn't let words hurt us and we try to look past it but eventually it all catches up. One day all those hurtful things catches up to you and you start to doubt yourself. Am I good enough for him? Is that girl prettier than me? What could I have said or done to make things different? We can't question or doubt ourselves. You can love someone so much and give them the world but sometimes they just can't give it back to you and that's okay. It might not feel okay but it is. The heart break will pass. You will eventually move on and find that person that can love you back the same way and support you in ways that the other person never could. And just because that person couldn't give you those things doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you.

Step one is knowing your self worth. You can't love someone else the right way if you don't love yourself. I don't know about you but this was one of the hardest things for me to understand. I would always second guess myself which is not okay. If someone has a problem with how you act or how you feel then that is there problem. We don't need to feel the need to change ourselves to satisfy someone else. The person for you will love you for you and that's just how it is. We can't let boys or anyone want us to change ourselves for them. The greatest thing about you is YOU! Knowing that you are the only you is such an incredible thing. The great news is that if someone can't see that then someone else will and that is an amazing feeling. You might not find that person right away. It will take time but time can be a great thing. I have figured out that during this time of waiting for my person I am able to love myself and grow on my own as a person.

My whole reason for writing this is because of my broken heart and it's not even from my own break up but my best friends. Break ups are one of the hardest things to go through when you love that person so deeply. So to my best friend, one day a guy is going to come around and sweep you off your feet and make you feel a way that no one else has before. They are going to love you like no one else has and they are going to lift you up, not bring you down. They are going to show you things like no one has ever been able to show you before. You deserve the most perfect human and he will come someday. Someday might not be tomorrow or even for awhile but they are coming. During this time I hope you grow as a person so you can grow with your person when they find you. They will never love you as much as I do but I sure can't wait to meet him. This heart break will pass. It is time to close the chapter and start writing your new one.