To The Friend I Lost, Then Found, Then Lost Again

To The Friend I Lost, Then Found, Then Lost Again

I wish things happened differently.


Dear friend,

Walking around campus, looking around at friends chatting about various topics and going to get meals or coffee at the nearest Starbucks or Dunkin Donuts, I couldn't help but think about you. I don't know what came across my mind as I was walking to the class, but it brought back memories of our time in elementary school.

Yes, elementary school. Third grade was where we met. You were new to the school as I was only in the school district for at that time all of my life. I honestly don't remember how we met, whether we met the summer you moved here before school began or during the first week of school. What I remember, we were like two peas in a pod. Spending recess together, field trips, and many other events. You were there when I talked about my first ever crush who in our class, and I will mention again why the hell did I ever have a crush on him?

All in all, I'm thankful that you made my third grade experience the way it was. The same can go for the fourth grade, even though we were in different classes by then. We had recess and that made me happy that I could be around you.

But then I got the news that you were moving back to where you lived before. It really hurt my heart because I was losing one of my best friends. So before fifth grade began, you moved and I felt like I lost you.

When the time of social media came around and we got in contact again, I was happy that we were talking after many years. We kept this up for a little bit until we just stopped talking once again. You really didn't cross my mind throughout high school, but then college came along and I found you on Facebook.

Little did we know, we were attending the same college. The only difference was that you commuted and I was living on campus. The day you commented on one of my posts that you attend Bowling Green State University and you left your number, my stomach did a flip and my heart beat raised. I added your number, and I realized I never lost your number because it was the same in my contact. We arranged to meet up, and it felt like my life was whole again. We talked for a bit until I had to go to marching band rehearsal.

After that, we would text here and there. But now, we have lost that contact again. However, I don't know what you are doing now because you aren't on Facebook very often. At first, I was fine. But now, I felt like I lost you again. Like I did back in elementary school.

I hope that your family is doing well. I hope you and your boyfriend of many years are still going strong. I hope that one day, I will muster up the courage to talk to you again.

I hope life is going well,


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6 Things I Didn't Really Need in My Freshman Dorm, And 6 Things I Wish I Brought Instead

I promise you, being Pinterest-worthy just doesn't make sense in a dorm.

As I packed up my dorm room and unpacked it all once I got home, I kinda felt stupid. I moved in with 2 cars full of stuff (yes, I know how extra that sounds and yes, it was indeed that extra) and I didn't end up needing half of it. Now, I'm swimming in stuff I need to get rid of while holding on to the stuff I didn't realize I would need and ended up buying mid-year. No matter how much you think you know everything, first-time dorm residents, please listen.

6 things I DIDN'T need but swore I did

1. All my personal books

I mean, I'm an English major and I love to read, but no one, and I mean no one, A) has free time and B) uses that free time to read in college.

2. Keurig

There's a coffee shop I can use my cafe credits at on my way to class. I never woke up early enough to brew my own coffee, and I never craved it bad enough in the afternoon to feel like I needed to make my own immediately. It was nice to make tea with though.

3. Dishes and Silverware/Excessive Mugs

All you need is 1 mug and a couple of water bottles. I promise you paper plates and plastic silverware are all you need.

4. An overabundance of office supplies

I didn't use all those fancy office supplies in high school, so as much as I love them, I have yet to reach for them in college.

5. T.V.

The T.V. I had was only slightly bigger than my laptop screen and the wifi at my dorm wasn't good enough for streaming. I hardly used it, but I know others used theirs a lot. Just a personal preference!

6. Tons of wall art

I totally believe wall art has the power to make a dorm room feel less institutional, but I wish I had brought more pictures from home to make my room personal. Pinterest dorm rooms just aren't real, and they aren't what you want when you're homesick.

6 things I wish I had bought before school started

1. ID Lanyard

I personally love these ones from Vera Bradley , but honestly, any way you can carry your ID, money, and keys all in one is a life changer.

2. Earplugs/Eye Mask

Dorms are loud even during quiet hours and sometimes your roommate stays up later or gets up earlier than you do. Amazon couldn't ship these to me fast enough.

3. Wireless Headphones/Earbuds

Personally, I'm an earbuds girl, but either one does the trick. It's nice to not have to deal with cords and to be able to connect to any of your devices without an adapter.

4. Laptop Shell/Stickers

Almost everyone ends up ordering stickers to put on their laptop to express themselves to those around them. On a practical level though, you're probably going to have the same laptop as 5+ other students in your lecture and you will probably throw your laptop in a bag and run at some point. A shell and some stickers will provide more protection than you realize. Check out for some great options.

5. Small vacuum

This is especially important if you get a rug. Sweeping is not pleasant, and the vacuums at your dorm are probably older than you are.

6. Pictures from home

Like I said before, wall art isn't going to comfort you when you want to go home. A picture of your dog or best friend sure will though.

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7 Signs You've Found An Authentic Friend

Never take true friendships for granted.


In a generation like ours, sometimes it's hard to distinguish a lifelong friend from a temporary one. There are friends for every part of your life: your childhood friends, college friends, work friends, and even friends that you play poker with at your retirement home. But one thing holds true during your life journey, hold on to your authentic friends. Here's how to distinguish one from an ordinary friend.

1. They remember specific details you've told them in the past.


How did they remember that your dog was turning 12 on June 6th? It's because they genuinely take the time to listen to you. This shows how much they care and want to know about your life.

2. They care about your well-being.


If you've heard your friend say things like "drive safe" or "text me when your flight lands", this shows how much they care about your safety. Authentic friends will make sure you are protected and feeling happy.

3. They always want the best for you.


We all know there is a big difference between a jealous friend and a supportive friend. Surrounding yourself with friends that want the best for you is important. More positivity will be brought in your life if you are aware of maintaining an encouraging environment for yourself.

4. They will be extremely honest with you.


True friends say it like it is. They won't lie and tell you your skirt matches your shoes if it doesn't. Honesty is the best policy when it comes to distinguishing a genuine friend.

5. They keep your secrets safe.


You can trust them and tell them anything. Authentic friends won't repeat secrets you've told them to anyone else, and this is such a refreshing feeling! These are reliable and trustworthy people.

6. They will go out of their way to help you.


This relates to caring about your well-being because they will do anything for you. Your true friends will go the extra mile without hesitation. They will be there for you wherever you need them and won't expect a favor in return.

7. They embrace your goofy side.


Everybody's got one! If you are able to be your true goofy self around your people then you, my friend, have found a true one! Enjoy being weirdos together.

If any of your friends meet these criteria, then you are blessed! Never take your true friendships for granted.

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