Why I'm Tired Of Hearing About Safe Spaces

Why I'm Tired Of Hearing About Safe Spaces

Nowadays it seems like everything you do or say may offend someone anyway—intentional or not.

In recent months, the topic of "safe spaces" has come up, and many millennials question whether colleges should provide said spaces for students. Safe spaces are essentially a certain space where people can feel comfortable and not be judged, regardless of sexual orientation, race, gender identity, disability, culture or religion. My issue with safe spaces is not because I believe it is unrealistic, I just believe that there are some people who take advantage of what a safe space is, which ruins it for others.

The debate for safe spaces faces a lot of negative backlash—the main concern being that it censors your freedom of speech. For instance earlier this year, Emory University came under fire because students found "Trump 2016" written in chalk around campus "triggering" and they believed it was threatening to their community, which is supposed to be a safe space. Now, I'm not a fan of Donald Trump at all, but when I see his name in chalk around USF's campus I just keep walking to class and minding my business because it is in no way harming me or my ability to function because a Presidential candidate's name is on the sidewalk. However, that is the issue of the term safe space being taken advantage of. Additionally, it is a college campus that is brewing with different beliefs, so to silence someones political stance because their candidate is unfavorable to you is undermining the reason you attend college in the first place.

Safe spaces are extremely helpful when they are used properly. Alcoholics Anonymous meetings are probably the most well-known example of safe spaces. That space is used to surround people with others who have battled through similar things in life so that they can all help each other to achieve the end goal of sobriety and happiness. LGBTQ+ groups are also safe spaces where members and allies of the LGBTQIA community can be together in unity and feel none of the pressure or anxiety that one might usually experience, especially by being a part of that specific community.

Extracurricular groups used for safe spaces are completely fine. However, colleges themselves are not to be considered such. In college lectures, it isn't uncommon for a professor to have a trigger warning before discussing topics that may cause other students in the class to feel uncomfortable. I feel that there is no issue with this, because you never know what someone has been through and what might trigger flashbacks especially with victims of sexual assaults or veterans with PTSD. But to expect a professor to not teach a specific topic altogether because it may offend a few people is an asinine way to think; if it were not important or relevant to the course (or your major) do you really believe your professor would be wasting their breath on it?

Nowadays it seems that everything you do or say may offend someone anyway—intentional or not. Begging for a safe space to hide from opinions that are the opposite of yours is counter-productive. Seeking a safe space in a world where being "accepted" does not seem to apply to you is productive. Everyone in America has the right to free speech, whether you like what they say or not. If you don't agree with them, don't listen. If you see something written that you don't agree with, ignore it. At the end of the day, it is a minuscule disagreement and there are people out there that actually use safe spaces in order to grow physically, emotionally and mentally. They don't use safe spaces to hide from the words of others because they use the words of others to strengthen them as human beings. The world is full of different opinions—offer yours, but don't hide from those who disagree.

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I'm The Girl Who'd Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign

You raise your protest picket signs and I’ll raise my white picket fence.

Social Media feeds are constantly filled with quotes on women's rights, protests with mobs of women, and an array of cleverly worded picket signs.

Good for them, standing up for their beliefs and opinions. Will I be joining my tight-knit family of the same gender?

Nope, no thank you.

Don't get me wrong, I am not going to be oblivious to my history and the advancements that women have fought to achieve. I am aware that the strides made by many women before me have provided us with voting rights, a voice, equality, and equal pay in the workforce.

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For that, I am deeply thankful. But at this day in age, I know more female managers in the workforce than male. I know more women in business than men. I know more female students in STEM programs than male students. So what’s with all the hype? We are girl bosses, we can run the world, we don’t need to fight the system anymore.

Please stop.

Because it is insulting to the rest of us girls who are okay with being homemakers, wives, or stay-at-home moms. It's dividing our sisterhood, and it needs to stop.

All these protests and strong statements make us feel like now we HAVE to obtain a power position in our career. It's our rightful duty to our sisters. And if we do not, we are a disappointment to the gender and it makes us look weak.

Weak to the point where I feel ashamed to say to a friend “I want to be a stay at home mom someday.” Then have them look at me like I must have been brain-washed by a man because that can be the only explanation. I'm tired of feeling belittled for being a traditionalist.


Because why should I feel bad for wanting to create a comfortable home for my future family, cooking for my husband, being a soccer mom, keeping my house tidy? Because honestly, I cannot wait.

I will have no problem taking my future husband’s last name, and following his lead.

The Bible appoints men to be the head of a family, and for wives to submit to their husbands. (This can be interpreted in so many ways, so don't get your panties in a bunch at the word “submit”). God specifically made women to be gentle and caring, and we should not be afraid to embrace that. God created men to be leaders with the strength to carry the weight of a family.

However, in no way does this mean that the roles cannot be flipped. If you want to take on the responsibility, by all means, you go girl. But for me personally? I'm sensitive, I cry during horror movies, I'm afraid of basements and dark rooms. I, in no way, am strong enough to take on the tasks that men have been appointed to. And I'm okay with that.

So please, let me look forward to baking cookies for bake sales and driving a mom car.

And I'll support you in your endeavors and climb to the top of the corporate ladder. It doesn't matter what side you are on as long as we support each other, because we all need some girl power.

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10 Pieces Of Advice From Kid President That Got Us Through Our Toughest Days

He might be young, but he's so wise.


The Kid President made his debut in 2012 and has impacted many lives with his positivity and kind words. He provides insight into negative situations and gives us all words to live by. Here are 10 times his words helped us get through the day.

1. When we didn't want to follow through with plans.


We've all been in the position where we had a bad day and wanted to cancel our plans. People want you there, so it's true: just you being there does make it awesome.

2. When you felt like you were struggling as a parent.


Your kids love you as a parent. They look up to you and value everything you do! Realistically, you're doing a great job and your kids see it, too.

3. When you felt like quitting.


You might be an adult, but there's still a force within you to keep you going.

4. When you felt overwhelmed.


Kid President gives great advice when it comes to being stressed: pause, breathe, love. It only takes a few minutes to pause and breathe in order to get back on track.

5. When you felt like you didn't matter.


You're here for a reason and have a spot on this planet, you matter.

6. When you saw your cousin post something political on Facebook.


Post-election Facebook was a battleground full of insults and disagreements. It's okay to disagree, but there's no reason for us to go out of our way to make someone else feel bad about their position.

7. When you someone cut you off driving and you want to hawk them down.


... then don't do it. Plain and simple. It won't do anyone any good to go after someone for something that really isn't a big deal.

8. When you felt like no one was listening.


You have so much to say and share, people will listen, especially if you have good things to say.

9. When you felt like you didn't know what you're doing.


If you're wearing pants and have toilet paper, you're doing a good job being an adult.

10. When you needed encouragement to get up.


Straight to the point, let's do it. You don't have to do it alone, but you have to do it.

Kid President is the king of good advice. It's all put in simple terms because we don't need to complicate anything anymore.

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