Let's face it, long-distance relationships are HARD. We all know that distance isn't something you want to include in any relationship you have. It doesn't even have to be your romantic relationship. Distance is hard with loved ones, family, friends, even your childhood pet. (Miss you, George!) In all reality, it's a long, difficult, and bumpy journey but you learn all kinds of things along the way! Such as those late night talks with your significant other is a GREAT time to learn their weird ticks that you can tease them about later. Everyone learns their own things that help them, but for those who are starting this crazy adventure, here are some things to keep in mind.
1. Laughter is the best medicine.
Hearing your significant other laugh on the phone is one of the easiest ways to put a smile on your face. If you're stressed with life, set some time aside and call the person you want to talk to most, that stress will then seem to melt away. Whenever I couldn't talk to my boyfriend, I'd call my mom because she always knew how to make me smile. Which reminds me....
2. Don't forget your family.
If your significant other is a large distance apart, it's easy to focus on them and when you get to talk next. But remember, your family is always there. Whether it's advice or venting, family is the best place to go. But don't forget your friends! A simple text can go a long way. So if you can't schedule some time to talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend, call mom and dad or your friend you've cancelled on the past few weeks. It won't only get your mind off of things, but it'll remind you of the support system you have.
3. Say good morning and good night E V E R Y D A Y.
Your schedules will be crazy and most often than not, they're not going to be the same. You'll have time when he doesn't and vice versa. Take a second to send a quick text before class and before you go to sleep. Trust me, it helps knowing that they are thinking about you too. It helped me remember to think about the good when I'm sad because I always knew there would be a text waiting to be opened in the morning.
4. Effort. Effort. Effort.
Nobody said this was going to be easy, especially when you can't see each other every day. It's going to take a whole lot of patience and effort. You can't expect something from one another without talking because you'll both end up disappointed. If you want him to put effort into making you feel special, you have to do the same. Whenever I was feeling sad, I would write out a long message saying all the things I loved about him and the memories I hold close to my heart and it helps! It brings in the good to balance out the sadness. Those messages really do help, as corny as it sounds.
5. Trust each other.
Trust is one of the most important keys to any relationship, especially one that involves distance. Mainly because you can't see them so you can't keep track of what they're up to. Trust is hard, especially in a new relationship because you're trying to get to know the person more on a deeper level. All I can say is don't hold back loving someone because you're scared of what may or may not even happen! It only takes away that special time you have with them.
6. Love them unconditionally and never fear commitment.
My first long distance relationship was in the beginning of my sophomore year in college when girls are supposed to be out experiencing the college life. With my parents' recent divorce, that didn't help my case much either. But the second I met my boyfriend, all those fears faded away. I just knew he was going to be the one I fall for. Commitment is scary, trust me. I feel you. But if you live your life in constant fear then you never get the true experience of what love can bring you.
