So it didn't work out. Well whether you ended on peaceful or nasty terms now your faced with the question: How do I move on? For some it's your first breakup and you honestly have no idea how to go about this concept of "moving on." For others maybe your just looking for more helpful tips and tricks, so allow me to show you methods that I've found to be effective.

1. Try not to talk about him/her too much

Yes, I know it seems impossible in the beginning because everything you do seems to remind you of him/ her. On top of that you are so hurt that you want to spend all day and night bad mouthing him/her, listening to music that reminds you of them, or talking about memories; possibly a combination of all three. I believe that when a break up first happens it's healthy and important that you let out all your emotions to someone you trust. However, as time goes on you need to start bringing them up less and less. I speak from experience when I say that once your ex is no longer a main topic of conversation with the people you talk to, you don't think about them much at all.

2. DO NOT STALK THEIR SOCIAL MEDIA

I mean it! Don't do it! That means no looking at their Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat story; and no looking at old conversations either. I admit at first it's hard to delete the messages that you've loved for so long but after the first month or two, I promise it becomes easier. It's one of those things that you just have to do without allowing yourself to hesitate. When you no longer have access to those lovey dovey messages it's easier to let go. As for social media turn off notifications for what that person posts, and if necessary temporarily unfriend them, or even block them. The presence of your ex on social media is only going to bring you pain for some time, it may even prevent you from moving on. When you put salt in the wound it's unnecessary and always painful. You should make it your goal to avoid many, if not all, of what your ex posts until you've officially moved on. For some people this is a hard measure to take so they try to justify themselves thinking, " I only looked once this week so it's not even that bad." NOPE! It doesn't work like that if this is a tip you choose to take, you have to go cold turkey. Trust me the feeling of "needing to check their posts" will pass quicker than you think.

3. Remove things that remind you of them from your room/ house

I'm not saying you have to throw them out, I know how impossible that is to do at first. If you do or don't decide to throw them out it should be entirely your decision, all I recommend is to put them away. Take down the pictures, put away the love notes and gifts, and hide them in the back of your closet. It's a universal truth: out of sight out of mind. When you aren't face with constant reminders of him/ her around your house, your less likely to think about them. It's essential that you take the past out of your present. Once you've erased them from your present you think in terms of the present. Instead of thinking about the dance you went to together because you saw that picture that still sits by your bed, you're thinking about that really cute guy/ girl that asked you for your number at the mall.

4. Change your outlook on being single

There is a huge stigma around being single, especially for girls. According to modern society it's a bad thing to be single and not something anyone should enjoy. The flaw in that logic is that being single isn't as bad as the stigma makes it out to be, in fact it can be fun. I recently got out of a relationship I was in for almost two and a half years, and I can't even begin to explain what a breath of fresh air it is to be single again. You don't have someone constantly giving their input on what you wear and what you do. You are completely and entirely independent! You can go get acrylics without your boyfriend complaining that he doesn't like them. You can wear makeup without your boyfriend complaining that he wants you to be natural. You can actually talk to that really cute guy in your English class, and the best part: you aren't tied to anyone. You can do the things you want, when you want, and how you want without consulting or worrying about what your boyfriend / girlfriend will think. When you look at it that way isn't being single pretty sweet.

5. Replace the music on your phone that reminds you of them

Now if you're like me, 99% of your music correlates to how you feel or what's going on in your life. If this describes you then you probably have a bunch of songs that remind you of your ex and former relationship. The best thing you can do is replace these songs with happy upbeat songs that don't remind you of the past at all. Personally I sought out catchy pointless rap that pumped me up.

6. Do things for YOU

As I said previously you're free now. You can do all those things you previously couldn't do or felt restricted in doing. You can do the things you like that he / she hated. On top of that you can use the now open spaces in your schedule to explore and develop yourself as a person. A lot of people lose themselves in their relationship or let their relationship define who they are, why not take the time that you're not in a relationship to just do you. Make a life for yourself that is so rich that you won't even think about your ex except to wish them the best.