I Just Realized That Life Isn’t Forever And It’s Time To Focus On Today
Start writing a post

I Just Realized That Life Isn’t Forever And It’s Time To Focus On Today

It really is important to stop and smell the flowers once in awhile.

I Just Realized That Life Isn’t Forever And It’s Time To Focus On Today
Riley Ziegler

Not too long ago, I ran into one of my mom's friends at work. We talked for a little while and caught up on things. She had just moved back to our town after living in Florida, and so she hadn't seen my mom yet upon her arrival back home. She asked how my mom was doing and mentioned how she was jealous of a Train concert that my mom had gone to just the night prior. She then nostalgically recalled a time of when she and my mom had seen them, "Train was great when your mom and I saw them a couple of years ago."

Wait a minute, what?

"... A couple of years ago," caught my attention.

I immediately stopped her and said, "What do you mean it was 'a couple of years ago?'" She replied back that it had been about three years since that night, as she had already lived in Florida for the past year, and they went two years before she moved.

I sat there in awe, basically dumbstruck, just trying to grasp the fact that that memory was from years ago, not as recent as I had thought. I didn't even go to the concert, but yet I remember the exact day my mom went, what she wore, all the details I heard and the videos I watched after my mom came back home from seeing them. It was so hard for me to wrap my head around the fact that this crystal-clear memory, that seems as if it was only a few months ago, could be that far away from my present self.

And so since then, I've been noticing a lot more.

Just yesterday, I sat across from someone I love. A family member that holds a special place in my heart. As we ate and talked about our day, I took a quick glance at their face and was shocked. They looked older. Older than I remembered them to look like. Small wrinkles had formed on their face that I had not realized before. Nothing significant, just normal lines appeared by their mouth, a few by their eyes as well. I drowned out the sound of them talking for just a moment as I stared at them, upset. Of course, we all get older, we all grow whether it's up or whether it's old, but life is constantly changing and I know this. I was not upset to see how typical life stages had affected them, as it inevitably does to everyone else, but in the part that I had not realized this until now. Do I not look at them enough? One day will I wish I had glanced at them more often? Am I stuck staring at my phone or, what I think to be, too busy to appreciate their presence by seeing them? And by seeing them I don't mean just walking around the house and seeing them with my peripheral vision or walking with them by my side and glancing at them quickly out of the corner of my eye. I mean genuinely seeing them. Looking at them while they talk to me, studying their face, making eye contact. All of this so that they know I care and that I am listening.

I look back at a picture of my dog, comparing the old photo to her present self. I see the added gray that has suddenly appeared around her face without me even noticing. I think back to times when she was quick, full of energy, and now I see a more toned-down version of herself. She's 11, and don't get me wrong, she's perfectly fine, but she's more mellow and relaxed now. Perhaps it is maturity, or rather could be age. And so I ask myself, am I truly appreciating her? Am I taking advantage of the time that I get to have with her? Life is not forever and before I know it, I'll regret the ignorance that I once had and will wish that I had paid more attention and spent more time with the ones I really love.

So I'm not sure if I have been lacking in my awareness and observation skills, if I'm completely oblivious to these changes occurring in life, or if this is a normal thing to not realize change.

I like to believe that you don't realize change is happening until you think back to a time where it was different and see how it is now. But now that I know that, I know to spend more time paying attention to the things that matter.

Finding out how fast time goes by has made me question a lot of things, but it has made me realize life goes by too quickly, and so it is important to appreciate the things that matter the most. The ones you love, the friends you have, the experiences you share.

As many times as you have probably heard this, people are constantly waiting for tomorrows plans, the weekend off from work, summer without school. You wait for Friday to get your check, and then, unfortunately, spend it all during the weekend. The month flies by and the next thing you know it's New Year's Eve, and you're celebrating the new year. 365 days can feel like 30. And so life should not be about waiting for tomorrow but about living for today.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.

23 Pandemic-Approved Date Ideas That'll Send Sparks Flying From Six Feet Apart

There's a safe way to date right now and yes, it includes masks.


While some people would rather opt out of dating altogether during the pandemic so they don't have to wear a mask on a first date, others are choosing to listen to both guidelines and their heart in order to find love during the time of coronavirus (COVID-19).

Should you be one of the individuals welcoming romance right now, there are pandemic-approved dates you can go on that still adhere to guidelines (and yes, you'll have to wear a mask).

Keep Reading... Show less

I didn't believe the notification when it came through to my phone: Ruth Bader Ginsburg had died from complications due to cancer.

Keep Reading... Show less

In our patriarchal society, men hide from their feelings, but toxic masculinity is literally killing men. They swallow the pain and move on so that they can look, feel, and act "tough."

But, strength is derived from asking for help and voicing your struggle and, trust me, working on your mental health is one hell of a struggle. The real way to "man up" is to acknowledge the downfalls in unjust societal norms. Mental health problems do not mean that a man is weak, they are neurologically-based disorders that require professional treatment.

Keep Reading... Show less

11 Things Your Boyfriend Should Do Before He Drops $499 On A PS5

Let's start with spending less time gaming and more time with you.


Scrolling through Twitter this week had me rolling on the floor laughing as I read some of the hilarious tweets from ladies who, whether in a relationship or not, shared reactions to the news that PlayStation 5 is on its way

As this "buy your boyfriend a PS5" joke takes off across the internet, let's just say, there are a few things your BF should be doing before dropping $499 on the new gaming system — or, if the tweets are real for some, before you buy it for him as a gift.

Keep Reading... Show less
Politics and Activism

Sorry, But 'I Don’t Care About Politics' Is Not A Valid Excuse For NOT Voting

The younger generation of voters is so crucial to the upcoming election because our vote is going to shape the world that we are about to enter as adults.


When I ask my friends if they are voting this term most of them respond with "no" followed by an explanation of "I don't care enough," "It doesn't affect me," or "I don't keep up with politics," etc. I get it, as a college student I know that there are many other things to be concerned about like school, relationships, work, and friends. I also understand that keeping up with politics can seem like trying to keep up with an over-exaggerated reality show that has way too many seasons. Not to mention most news stations and websites are biased so it's hard to decipher if what you hear is true or fake.

However, despite all of this annoyance, as the next generation of Americans, we have to remember that we owe it to ourselves, our families, and to our futures to care.

Keep Reading... Show less
Tasia Sli

Tasia Sli and Anna Yang met in quintessential New York fashion at a chic rooftop event, inquisitive Yale grad Anna gravitating towards model/entrepreneur Tasia.

Keep Reading... Show less
Photo by Anna Hernández-Buces

"Do you have big parties on Cinco de Mayo?"

Keep Reading... Show less

Two of my favorite things in life are reading and books. Obviously, they go hand-in-hand. In my life, I've realized that there is nothing better than learning about the current world or getting fully immersed in another world. Reading can inspire, teach, and entertain you.

For me, the feeling of opening a book and smelling that fresh book smell can't compete with anything else.

Keep Reading... Show less

Expecting mother and wife to singer/songwriter John Legend may have accidentally slipped up and revealed the gender of her and Legend's third baby today on her Instagram story.

Keep Reading... Show less

20 Books About Latin And Hispanic Heritage Absolutely Everyone Should Have On Their Bookshelf

Any ally of the community needs to be reading these incredible reads.


I go through phases when it comes to what I like to read. I am typically reading two books at any given time: one serious nonfiction and one escapist fiction novel to have on hand and open up depending on my mood.

What remains consistent, however, amongst most of my fellow bibliophiles is a desire to try new and different authors and genres. I, as an Indian woman, have been partial to reading books written by fellow Indian and Desi writers since I first got a library card.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

I Asked 46 Women What They Thought About The Term 'Plus-Size', And Here's What They Had To Say

It's 2020, where change is inevitable and norms are not only questioned, but challenged.


We live in a world where it's become customary to push boundaries, break rules, and question standards upheld by society. Though try as we might, some of these standards are harder to conquer than others — body image is one of the top contenders.

For years, the body positivity movement has pushed for the acceptance of all marginalized body types not represented or celebrated in the media. Recently, we've gotten better at appreciating and accepting all body types, but one thing that's still lingering is the stigma of body image in the fashion industry — more specifically, the term "plus-size."

Keep Reading... Show less

Many popular TV shows are holding off premiers until spring, so most people are relying on their television subscriptions to get them through a socially distant fall semester.

Thankfully, Netflix was busy filming this past year because there is a ton of new original content coming in the near future. From mysteries to romances, here are some of the best new shows you have to check out this year:

Keep Reading... Show less

Taylor Swift Sang 'betty' At The ACMs And It Was The Perfect First Live 'folklore' Performance

I guarantee that Inez is spreading rumors about how fire this performance was.


The Academy of Country Music Awards were last night and the performances were wonderful, but Taylor Swift's live version of "betty" from her newest album "folklore" really took the cake for me.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

9 Reasons I Unfollowed All The Fitness Influencers On My Instagram Feed

I don't need to feel bad about myself because of who I follow on social media.


Throughout quarantine, something that a lot of us picked up on was working out. With all the free time, it seemed like the perfect opportunity to work on that "dream bod" you've been wanting for years, or to just feel good about yourself.

A common way to stay motivated and keep yourself on-task is to follow fitness influencers on various platforms. For some people, yes, this can be a healthy and helpful way to keep your drive. In other cases, however, this can do more harm than good.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments