Some times we just need time for ourselves. It can be hard, especially when in school, to realize that that time for yourself is just as needed as time doing homework, or practicing. We need time to know ourselves so we can find what we love.
I realized this the other day while driving home. I have a pretty long drive, so I had a CD to listen to, I had remembered earlier that week scoffing at my Dad who had been driving under the speed limit, just enjoying the drive, but just then I understood. While listening to music and looking around I could just think. I didn't worry about getting home quickly or rushing. I could just listen to my CD and not worry about being judged. I could listen to what ever I wanted, at what ever volume I wanted. I could relax and take time for me. I could think about all the events ahead of me. College tours, auditions, and graduations. Although this may seem wacky and cliche, it is huge for me. When ever I'm faced with choices that really scare me about the future I always find myself doing this. Going to a place where I'm comfortable and having a heart to heart with me.
What do I really think about this college? Or how do I feel about this major? Do I want to go that far from home? Here I can know my thoughts are my own and my feelings impartially my own. I know my decision won't be for my friends, teachers, or family. They will be what I think is best for the situation.
Times like these are important, because they allow you to start to feel comfortable with who you are. I know for me, times when I allow myself to be alone and rest I am able to really think about the future. I'm not being judged I can be straight with my self. Not being influenced by others. These are the times where you can really get to know yourself and where you want to go. Resently I've had a lot of life decisions to make, with college, majors, classes, etc. And even though I still have doubts, because I really thought about it, I find myself less scared about the future.
There are many benifits to having time to yourself. You learn things about yourself. You know what you're comfortable with and what your not. You know what you need to improve on and where you see your faults. You learn to, hopefully, productively criticize yourself to be better.
While it is good to get others opinions, you need to know your own first. Even though you have classes, clubs, and activities, don't always focus on them. Instead of rushing, take some time for yourself to find who you are and what you really want.
