While I am close to my own mother, I am also lucky enough to have a special relationship with my best friend’s mom. Over the past few years, we have become really close friends and have developed a special relationship. It’s safe to say she is like another mother to me. She’s like my therapist, my shoulder to cry on and my biggest cheerleader. Although I could talk about all of the reasons why she’s so extraordinary, these are the three that truly stand out.
My second mom has become a source of moral support for me when I need it. She does this by shooting me a “you can do it!” text when I’m about to do something I’m nervous about, such as a job interview. Whenever something really amazing happens to me, she is quick to remind me of how proud of me she is. For example, when I went for a job interview to become a copy editor, I remember her encouraging me about it and telling me how much success I had already regardless whether or not I got the job. When I got the job, she was one of the first to know about it and offer her congratulations. Her encouragement always helps me during good times and bad, and having someone have faith in you is always helpful when you need to be reminded on how great you are.
While she is my biggest cheerleader, I can also turn to her for advice whenever I need it. This can be just about anything I’m having trouble with and need some insight on, whether it's jobs or advice about relationships. She listens to me intently and then offers me a number of probable solutions that could work for whatever situation I’m in. I can trust her about anything that’s going on with my life, and she has become a source of insight for me in a way that’s non-judgmental. It’s important to have someone who is not only wise and has a lot more experience than myself, but someone who you feel comfortable opening up to. I’m grateful that she’s that person for me.
My second mom is also my shoulder to cry on. Whenever I’m having a bad day and am particular devastated about something, she’s the person I know I can call and she’ll tell me that “everything will be okay". Whenever I’m really upset, that’s one of the things I need the most. She’s one of the few people I feel comfortable crying in front of, because rather than saying “stop crying,” she tells me it’s okay to cry and offers her support. Having someone to call whenever you are in crisis mode and tell you everything is going to be okay makes everything seem less awful.
My relationship and friendship with my second mother is truly unique. While she’s not only my friend, she’s also that one person I can always count on being there for me. And, that alone is something I am grateful for.
