Every day we find ourselves in situations of all different kinds. Some of them are easy to navigate while others are like trying to find your way in a blizzard. Some we want to be in and some we don't. Most of the time the situations are thrown our way with little warning, and we have to decide how we are going to handle them. Choices are made and words are said, but what do you do when you’re afraid to say what you want to say? If you’re like me, you hold your tongue and rant about it later to your best friend about how you wish you told that one person what was on your mind. In the moment your fears of what that person’s reaction might be could keep you from speaking your thoughts, but later on you wish you would've been straight forward. So why don’t we just take the plunge and say what we want, if we know that we will regret not saying it later? That’s the question.
There are so many instances where I wish I had said something instead of keeping quiet, but when I mustered up the courage to do it the time had passed, and it was too late. Although we feel like we have all the time in the world, that isn't the case even though we wish it was. Don’t let your fears of speaking your mind or telling someone what you want to tell them let you miss out on an opportunity because you’ll regret it, and regret is a nasty thing to carry around. Maybe you want to tell someone how you feel, but you don't know how or if you want to express your feelings to them. You wouldn’t want your relationship to suffer because you weren’t honest with them and with yourself. Keeping something in that needs to be said can sometimes cause a domino effect. Things that you didn't think would be affected were.
Honestly, if you think that saying whatever it is that you need to say will lift some weight off of your shoulders, then you should say it. This is something that I have had to think about lately, what I should and shouldn't say to someone in my life. I don't want to cause problems, but I'm also struggling with something that they are frequently doing. My friend suggested that I say something early, so I don't explode later and make the situation worse. You should think about the consequences and how it will affect your life in the future. Also, think about whether or not saying it will cause you to be plagued by regret if you never get to say it because you miss a time sensitive chance. After doing all of this, if you still feel like expressing yourself is still a bad idea then keep it to yourself, but most of the time the answer will be to speak your mind. So say your thoughts, speak your mind and do it regret free.
