Life is tough, we've all faced situations that made us feel like we were in the middle of the ocean with our ankles cuffed to a two ton weight, like we were drowning. Sometimes we can just feel loss, and there is no rhyme or reason to it; we just can't seem to find our way back on track. Needing help and asking for some guidance is really hard, we all think that we can be superman/superwoman and we don't realize that we cannot juggle it all alone. We just have to remember we can do it and get through it all no matter what.
There are times when trying to cope with a loss, any kind, could be losing a relative or important person, an animal or a relationship it takes a lot. Like any situation that basically requires grieving you go through all five stages. Sometimes it feels like it's all coming at you at once, your world is crashing and you will never be the same. You are not wrong. Everything has changed and you will not be the same as you were before it happened. That shouldn't be scary, we change every day; every morning we wake up there is something a little different about us than there was the previous morning. That's the beautiful thing about finding yourself again, you're ever changing and it is a beautiful process.
Redefining who I was as a person after a huge loss in my life was terrifying. I was so emotional and it's very reasonable that you usually are, your mind and body are trying to sort out the thousands of thoughts rolling through your head or all the emotions you feel at once. There's anxiety, anguish and frustration followed by fear, nervousness and excitement. The unknown of conquering a loss gives you a chance to completely feel in control of your life again. You are finally the pilot and get to decide how the rest of the journey is going to continue. When faced with something that causes you to feel this way it usually catches you out of no where and is very sudden, nothing could have prepared you for the moment you lost something, a huge part of your life, yourself. But remember after all of it, you're still standing.
There are experiences everyone goes through that we didn't ever expect to encounter and we never thought we would survive it and once we did it was empowering, but we can't forget how we got there. When you've hit rock bottom and are fragile and just feel broken there are always people that will be there for you to pick you back up and help you realize all you're worth. Thank these people and cherish them forever. Hold on to the wonderful humans that you have to surround you and make sure they know that they helped you. Surviving, knowing that you are still standing would be impossible with out a support system who loves you when you're unloveable. These are the people that see you for you at your truest form and don't judge you when you've hit a speed bump and aren't quite yourself anymore. Being lost and going through a loss is an experience that challenges you, but is very worth the outcome of finding yourself again and realizing you have people who love you for the person you are.
Dealing with loss tests the person you've always thought you were but there is no challenge in life that you cannot handle; life is tough, wear a bloody helmet.
