Because of the way my parents raised me, it was always second nature to say "thank you" whenever they'd give my siblings or I anything. From time to time, I failed and continue to fail to thank them for simple, small things (calling to make sure I'm OK or scheduled hair appointments) and very large things (such as giving me an education or taking me on vacation). Regardless how I often I thank my parents for all these kinds of things, they know I'm thankful for them because I, at one point, have said so. However, there are less tangible, less typical gifts my parents have given me that have taken me 18 years to realize how valuable they are, These are the things I forgot to thank my parents for:
1) Teaching me to "spend money on experiences, not things."
As goofy as it might sound, one of my favorite things to do with my mom is to go thrift shopping. To me, something as inexpensive and simple as this is overly exciting and lighthearted, My parents raised me to not be materialistic, but rather value experiences and memories. Because of this mantra, our family is able to travel, go to concerts and watch soccer games together. Looking back, I realize how grateful I am for all the adventures I've been on with my family and how completely full I feel without a new car, gift cards or the newest, hottest item.
2) Showing me what true love looks like.
My parents fight, disagree and annoy each other like any couple does. However, their love has the endurance to keep going after tough patches, and I admire this. Having an honest and healthy example of love in my life has countered doubts I've had for my own future and circumstances. Through their relationship, they've shown me how to love and be loved.
3) Teaching me how to climb to the top without stepping on other people.
Both of my parents have made their way in the world without tearing others down to get to where they're at today. From graduating college to starting a business, to earning dream jobs and promotions, my parents are genuine examples of hard work and integrity. My mom and dad have shown me how to make a name for myself while not becoming too 'hard' or losing my sensitivity.
4) Showing me how to come out of dark situations.
Without question, my parents have lived through difficult things and continue to struggle in their own ways. There were distinct moments during my last two years of high school I simply could not see myself recovering from, and these events were equally, if not more, difficult for my parents to deal with. My parents have dealt with, in many different scenarios, some of the worst situations I could imagine a parent going through. I also think it's important to note all the hardships they faced before they even became parents; my mom and dad have truly had incredible trials over their lifetimes. However, they did not throw in the towel. They picked themselves up, continued to become better people and cherished life after low points. This is an art I have not yet mastered, but I have hope knowing that my mom and dad are living proof of recovery and strength.
5) Never telling me I was bad at school (although I was really bad in a few classes).
This one is fairly self-explanatory but no less valuable than the others. If it wasn't for my parents, I would not be in college right now, pursing topics that interest me and becoming more worldly. You believed in me when I didn't believe in myself, mom and dad.
I love you mom and dad; every success I have I owe to you both. You've made me the person I am today and I can't wait to pass on all your great lessons to my own kids.
