The Truth Behind The Phrase "Time Heals All Wounds"

It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone." - Rose Kennedy

We've all used the phrase before "time heals all wounds" or "it'll all get better in time." To me, these phrases are bullsh*t. It's been four months since I've lost my best friend. Four months since I was able to hear my dad's voice. Four months ago, April 28 was the worst day of my life. Time hasn't healed anything for me. I'm still confused. I'm still angry. I'm still left without a father, left without the man who was supposed to walk me down the aisle at my wedding.

The quote above is a perfect representation of how I feel about the phrase "time heals all wounds". My wound will never heal. I'll miss my dad every single day until the day I die. You don't just bounce back from a loss. Time doesn't just heal wounds like that. Sure, literally, a broken bone can be healed over time. But for me, my mind covers my wound every day with scar tissue. I wake up and go to class. I do my work. I do what I'm supposed to do, and the pain does lessen. However, it's at the late hours of the night when I wake up in tears because I had a dream about my dad or it's when I pass a guy in the hallway who is wearing the same cologne my dad wore that I realize my wound, losing my best friend, still remains.

I'm sure, eventually, it won't hurt as much to think of him. But time won't change the fact that he's not here with me when he should be. It won't change the fact that I'll never be able to hear my dad's voice again. It won't change the fact that he never got to meet future grandchildren or walk me down the aisle. Time doesn't get to heal my wound, I'm not that lucky which is why the phrase is bullsh*t.