People may think Taylor Swift is a lot of things but she sure as hell is right… In her song "Bad Blood," Swift states the words, "Band-Aids don't fix bullet holes," and I couldn't agree more.
Most of us have experienced joy, love, and happiness. Most of us have experienced pain, heartache, and sadness. Don’t you agree?
Now, how often was the person who made us feel happy was also was the one who caused heartache and sadness? Pretty often. Oh, and let me guess… more than likely, I’m sure there have been times when you’ve forgiven this person even when they didn’t deserve it or just ripped the same Band-Aid off again and again? Yeah.
Whether you’re the girl who wants to “save" or "change” the guy who can’t be saved or change or you’re the best friend who clearly is the “best” while the other friend is out being not so great or whatever the situation may be, most likely I’ve been there.
Look… others may have told you this, maybe not, I don’t know. But what I do know is that life can be a bunch of crap sometimes. But honestly, we can control more than what we think. No one is happy when someone betrays their trust or hurts them, so why do we keep letting people get away with this?!
Someone hurting you (we'll refer to that as a "bullet hole"). Someone repeatedly apologizing (that will be referred to as a "Band-Aid"). And you know what? Band-Aids don't fix bullet holes, literally or metaphorically. Whichever way, it doesn't work.
Where is the respect nowadays? Most of it is thrown away just like trust. Well, it’s about time people start throwing away crappy apologies and cowardly lies.
Life is too short to have unpleasant people ruin things for you and hurt you. So that’s when you do your best to forgive and forget. Leave that person in the past, be cordial, I don’t care. Maybe remain friends. It’s up to you. Just please don’t let the same thing happen over again, you owe it to yourself.
If someone truly is sorry (yes, there is that .001 percent rare species that may be out there), then they won’t try and fix the problem with a mere lousy apology or they won’t “change” for a short period of time and then be back up to their same old tricks. Hell no. The person needs to be completely genuine, ok? No games. They also need to understand that it will require time and if they care, that won’t be a problem. They will make you happy and keep making you happy. You shouldn’t have to question it... and if you do, be careful. Spot the difference.
Please know this, though, if you’re going to choose to let the “Band-Aid” fix the “bullet hole” know that it will never be truly fixed. Bullet holes take time to heal. It takes a gentle, caring hand. It takes effort. So don’t settle for the Band-Aid because eventually you will bleed out and you will be drained and you’ll be wondering how the hell you ended up in that situation. And in that moment, you’ll probably realize exactly how...
