I want all of you
to get the girls at the end of your stories, so here are the do’s and
don'ts of dating. I'm about to share our secrets with you.
Be interesting.
Have interests and opinions and voice them. Women like having good conversations with men. Conversations do not have to be about deep, dark secrets, but talk about things that matter to you. Honestly, that’s the hook in getting a girl’s attention. All women appreciate nice physiques— who doesn’t— but, that can all change once you open your mouth. It’s okay to care about more than just parties and alcohol, but don’t make a girl feel like you’re proud of all of the stupid things you’ve done while drunk. It’s okay to share those stories— everyone has their fair shares, so they can be pretty funny and good laughs. However, they aren’t our proudest moments and they shouldn’t be. If you really like a girl, talk to her and ask her what she likes. Do a little research if you don’t know anything about the things she likes and talk to her about it (brownie points).
Be able to show a girl a good time.
This goes for any social events or dates, especially at parties. It’s okay to have fun. Like Cyndi Lauper said, “Girls just want to have fun,” but do not act like a fool and embarrass us. For the love of God, don’t spill your drink on us. We will kill you or never talk to you again and that’s your fault. When you take us on dates, show that you’ve been thinking about us. It’s really not all about money. Yes, some fun things cost money, but not everything does. Get creative. Some of the best dates I’ve been on have cost nothing and have been really sweet. Women love sweet guys. If you’re on a low budget, ask her to go star gazing, on a picnic, hiking, canoeing, or basically anything that sounds cheesy. Women like men that do cheesy things that are simple and thoughtful.
Be responsible.
It’s okay to care about things. If you don’t care about anything, why should we think that you will care about us? When you tell us you just failed your college exam, we think two things: 1. He’s an idiot. 2. He doesn’t care. We may not always get straight A’s, but we all made it to college for the reason that we’re trying to go up, not down. Remember that. I have never met a girl that thought that failure was attractive. Guys, if your lives are messes, get it together before you try bringing others into them. In addition, take care of your hygiene. Brush your teeth, take a shower every day, and smell good. We do not want to taste the last cigarette you had or the kind of liquor you drank last night. A responsible guy is just as attractive as a fun guy. If you’re both, you’re golden.
Don’t assume.
Stop assuming that she is either going to fall head over heels for you immediately or that she doesn't like you at all. It’s just a process. You need to be patient and have a little confidence. Women need to find out how you fit into their complicated lives or even if you fit in their lives. You need to do that, too. Don’t jump into something too fast. Give yourself time to figure out what kind of girl you’re seeing, what kind of guy you are, what your goals are, and if you want a relationship or not. Good things take time. On a similar note, if a girl doesn’t text back immediately, don’t assume that she doesn’t like you. Girls like to be social and have insanely busy lives. You should understand that, just as you like to play video games and hang out with your buds, taking your sweet time texting her back. If you want to talk to a girl, try talking to her in person. Text messages only go so far. Communicate your thoughts. If you think she doesn’t like you, ask her. You will get a clear cut answer and the pain and suffering will be over. Trust me. It’s better to know than wonder. Then, you can move on.
Don’t ask a girl to “hang out.”
Ask a girl on a date. You don’t have to say, “date,” if that makes you feel overwhelmed. If you really like this girl, though, you should feel lucky to take her out. It doesn’t mean you’re in a relationship if you ask a girl on a date. No, calm down, take it easy. You’re not in a relationship with anyone who you haven’t asked to be your girlfriend. When you date someone, you are getting to know them. You will find out by the end of the night if you want to ask that girl out again or not. After the first few dates, then you can ask her to hang out. It won’t be as awkward and she might actually enjoy spending time with you. When you ask a girl to hang out first, instead of going on a date, it says four things to her about you: 1. You’re lazy and want to put no effort into spending time with her. 2. You’re cheap and can’t afford to take her out. 3. You’re scared that she will turn you down, so you avoided the situation by asking her to hang out instead. 4. You’re not serious about her. I promise you that, if you ask a girl to hang out, you already have points against you. Just don’t do it. You might as well just stay alone forever.
Show respect.
In other words, be a gentleman. There are some women that this does not apply to, but most women want men to open doors for them, to hold on to your arm when you walk together, to knock on their doors when you pick them up, to open the car doors, and to be walked to their doors when you drop them off. Some women believe that they need to be independent, which means doing absolutely everything for themselves, and you have to respect that, too. This is something, however, that they will inform you of, not something that you need to assume. It is always best to do more than not enough. Another thing— even if you really want to, don’t touch her on the first date. Don’t grab her hand, don’t put your hand on her waist, and don’t try to kiss her. It might creep her out to the point that she pulls away. Awkward. All of that will come later, but not on the first date. Engage in conversation with her. Make her want you to hold her hand and put your hand around her waist when you walk down the street. Do not move too fast if you care about this girl or she will be out of your life as fast as she was in it.
Be confident.
There are countless articles on women’s insecurities, but there is something to be said about the insecurities of men, too. Don't be insecure. You are what you believe you are and people believe what you tell them that you believe you are. So, believe that you are charming and irresistible, although you can’t expect a girl to drop absolutely everything for just any guy that walks across her path. Lots of guys cross her path because she is gorgeous, kind, funny, and no one can seem to hold on to her. If you want to be the guy she cancels something for, start acting like someone she deserves. Be that guy. If you act insecure, it’s going to confuse her. When you stop talking to her because you “think” she might not like you, that’s called sending mixed signals. Then, she’s going to think you don’t like her or that you’re into some other girl. Game over, guys. Be consistent.
Don’t be cocky.
Confidence does not mean arrogance. For the love of all that is sweet and wonderful in this world, do not embarrass yourself by acting like you are the best thing that ever walked on planet Earth. No, you do not walk on water. Humility goes a long, long way. The most important thing at the end of the day is that you are yourself around a girl that you like. Women want to get to know men for who they are, not guys who just want to act cool all of the time. Don’t be that typical college guy that’s always awkwardly hitting on girls. No decent girl with any self-respect will fall for it. Now, if all that you want is a girl for the night, then that’s okay. However, don’t go around complaining about how this girl is playing with your heart because that’s what you asked for, that’s what you looked for, and that’s what you got.
Have an open mind.
If you really like a girl, you’ll find that you want to change for the better. If you feel this way, she’s a keeper. Any girl that makes you want to be better, without yelling at you about how much you suck, is a gem. You need to hold on to her and never let her go. Relationships are about making each other better, not about dwelling.
So, guys, I hope that this helps you understand what’s going through the minds of women. I sincerely hope that all of you find amazing and wonderful girls that will change your lives forever, in the best way possible. Remember: have an open mind. Good luck and may the odds be in your favor.
