I've seen it happen more times than a person should — an innocent girl getting hurt by a boy too stupid to deserve her or her time. Witnessing it both firsthand and off on the sidelines can be something difficult, especially if you have an open, welcoming heart like myself and my friends. You fight to see the good in people, despite what anyone around you thinks or says, but sometimes you need to rely on what your friends are saying about someone you're close to.
You're blinded by who that person wants you to see and believe in. You only see the good things they've accomplished and the nice things they say. You don't see them lose their temper. You don't see them ignoring you to stare at another girl. You ignore all the signs that they're just not good for you emotionally, mentally or otherwise. We've all been there. We've all been that girl that wanted to see the better part of someone and ended up getting hurt by lies and secrets being kept from us.
But please don't beat yourself up for falling for one of the guys. Don't bring yourself down just because you couldn't catch him commenting heart-eyed emojis on some girl's Insta pictures or because you accepted his lame excuses for not being able to hang out with you. You are not the one at fault here. You are not the one to blame for getting hurt. This is the thing with boys like this — they're just boys. Boys that are trained in being skillful at deceit and lying and playing games. They'll say they hate games, but watch out. You're already a pawn in whatever "love" story they have at the moment.
Give up "talking" to boys (like, um, hello? They won't even commit to being in a relationship). Give them up like I did because you're better than that.
You deserve a man. One that won't keep you playing 20 questions or trying to solve his whereabouts like a game of Clue. You deserve someone who appreciates you and loves you and trusts you. This isn't just another "know your worth and give up all boys until you find the one" articles. This is the "you're a boss-ass bitch and you run the world" article. Empower yourself. Don't shy away from that cute boy in bio. Take the lead and YOU ask him out for coffee.
The world isn't perfect and you're going to get hurt. This is just a fact of life. But in this world, you get to choose who you get hurt by. Do you really want that person to be someone you allowed to make excuses or someone who wouldn't even call you back? Do you want that person to be someone who didn't listen to you when you talked about your passions or someone that didn't respect your opinions?
Do yourself a favor and let these boys fly by you without a second thought. You're better than that. Own your world and love life with the people who deserve your love.
