In the 21st Century we "talk" we don't date. Talking is this weird in-between space where two people like each other, but not enough to define a relationship. Both parties can theoretically do whatever they want without consequence. The term "talking" is so ambiguous and open-ended, I mean I "talk" to people everyday. It leaves both people involved in this "talk-relationship" wondering what they are actually allowed to do and how exclusive their relationship really is. This "talking" describes 21st century dating in that we are all so scared to commit, even if we really do have feelings for someone. There is a lack of communication that leaves both people still craving more from their relationships.

But talking is even more frustrating then the actual relationship suggests. What happens when the "talking" stops? The problem with it is that nothing ever truly ends. There is never an official breakup (there can't be because you never really defined the relationship), just lingering feelings of longing and confusion. Why did he stop texting me? Who is that new girl on his Instagram? What did I do wrong? What were we? What are we? These are the questions we always seem to ask ourselves when someone stops "talking" to us. It allows the person that dropped us to come back into our lives at a moments notice, because nothing really ever ended. Everyone is so afraid to show that they have actual feelings, and want a commitment, that they end up just taking whatever they can get. It's time to end "talking" and start talking about what we actually want and need in our relationships.