One of the hardest emotionally-related challenges for the heart, mind, and soul is having to walk away from someone you love. When you're clawing at a rock wall until your fingertips bleed, but can't reach the top. Throwing the love-dripped words at them like ninja stars, but the cuts don't scratch the surface. Reciting your thoughts like a Shakespearian play, but performing in front of a non-existent audience. To everyone out there who is feeling heartbroken or who is longing for someone that won't make a significant presence in their future, I'm here to tell you that it's okay. It's okay to feel those emotions, but it's not okay to feel those emotions for months or years. The time dedicated to never ending waves could have been used to cultivate a garden of superiority. Here is a short poem based off of some feelings and following that will be some key concepts on how to let go of the past.
The night I met you in a habitat of fire
My smile froze and my heart's fuel became desire
Sketch my thoughts onto your sheets of white hue
To witness yourself and my love lying down beside you
Did I cause a storm and trap you in an argument?
"Just friends" was placed in a different compartment
I licked the wounds of an unknown survivor
You fixed what was broken like the well-known MacGyver
The remembrance of your visit splashed me with clarity
Loving you had become a special entity
As you poured me onto the ground in submission
My tastebuds were sparked by ignition
My conscious fell guilty to your stardust
Your demeanor constructed with robust
But before I could hold onto my head
The blade grazed my skin and I was dead
Choose your path
The first question you should ask yourself is "Can I coexist with this person in my life or no?" If you are able to remain friends with this individual or even hang out on some sort of basis, that takes a lot of inner strength. There is a reason why you fell for this person in the first place and it could have been because they are a high-quality person. However, some people are purely toxic to your psyche and you are better off if they disappear from your life. You could also be stuck on an emotional roller coaster where one day you’re fine and the next a puddle of distraught and depression. If you choose the first path and you are able to remain happy and fall in love with someone else, then that’s great. If you choose the other path, then you have some important, yet difficult steps to continue to take.
Leave the past in the past
It’s okay to acknowledge that this person made an impact on your life; it is not okay if you’re eating a carton of ice cream every night yelling their name at your ceiling. One solution? It’s a good idea to not look back at past photos or creep on their social media sites to see what they're up to without you. Photos are filled with bittersweet memories that could keep you in a dark place and Facebook statuses and tweets are like watching them from a lonely distance. If possible, burn or throw out the pictures you have with them, but if that’s not an incredibly easy task for you, then store the photos somewhere where you would almost never check like in a basement, attic, or under the bed in a box. Yo have better things to accomplish in life than to cry over spilt milk.
Cut communication ties
Texting or calling them could only make the struggle more difficult. Especially if the person doesn’t reply, you could constantly end up wondering how they feel about you. If they aren’t texting or calling you back, then they aren’t worth your time and they don’t deserve someone waiting around for them. You have a lot more worth than that.
Circle of friends
Spending time with good friends is a great way to vent out your problems or forget about the person altogether. Going on road trips, camping or going to the beach are some fun things to do with friends and get you out of that same environment. Spending time with family can also help just as much.
Focus on yourself
There are always things that you can do to benefit yourself. Going to the spa, working out, advancing in your career, and starting a new hoppy are a few examples on how to progress yourself. It’s nice to help others, but if you are always helping others, who is helping you?
