My mind has been consumed by cluttered thoughts as I stared at the screen of the television portraying glimpses of the “good life.“ The numerous scenes in each show depicting ideal situations and illustrating what we should be. Hard to hesitate comparing my current life experiences and moments to those lived by my favorite characters and trying not to surrender to sudden feelings of despair and disappointment that shadowed on the corners of my mind. As I sit through watching the glorified moments of happiness and perfection of the characters and celebrities .
societies expectations on the standard of living and providing ideals of what our lives should be like and how we should be like all can be developed from the television alone there’s a saying that the sun only shines on tv it means this is not a perfect world and life doesn’t turn out how you always want it too ,leading to feelings of emptiness and disappointment. Usually what happens when we compare reality to a illusion .
comparing my actual reality to the expectations depicted through media and societal influences as become a downer my feet sinking into the quicksand that has become my envy and disappointment started crippling my self esteem as my reality kept hitting me and comparing and contrasting it to the world around me accomplishing much more than you much more than you ever had at your same age it’s hard to not feel defective or failed as a person . And the label failure is all I could feel all I could come to believe of myself
Most of my life I gave up the only true liberty I’ve ever truly had to the world around me. By allowing myself to be molded according to generalized expectations that one is lead to believe about themselvesuntil one day I stopped comparing myself to an illusion
once I grasped at a new concept of thinking everything changed for me the epiphany that
There is no true guarantee path to happiness and believing so ls what caused me agony and distress and to feel like a failure in life for not obtaining that happiness that place in life that every scene shows that ultimate perfect place in life . Each individual has their own idea of a good or happy life
Yet,societal influences and the Media try to condition us to living according to their ideals and expectations of success ,good life and path of happiness . Which I kept trying to live up to but couldn’t . The good life and path to happiness is usually portrayed to be marriage ,starting a family ,love , romance ,graduating college ,wealth ,fame ,being “happy”
Falling into unrealistic expectations on life and wishful thinking is detrimental . We must be pragmatic about our realities and make obtainable goals grounded on reality and realistic standards . not on illusions and deluded sense of what things should be or how it should be. Comparing yourself and your unique life to generalized standards of what makes one living to the fullest or to the life’s portrayed on movies will cause disappointment and to feel our lives have failed and we aren’t worthy or our lives aren’t a good one .
I came to see that Everyone’s born into different circumstances and molds with different prilveges and issues that affect them and can't all be held to same standards or expectations .by Placing a specific ideal of what someone in a certain age group ,gender ,race should have accomplished in life or the state of mind or phase of life they should be at or else their deficient or devalued as a person pressures us to fit the mold and if we cant we feel depressed and less of a person . Holding yourself to any expectations distracts you from seeing the unique set of cards you've been dealt with in life . We must base our life on the cards at hand . We aren't a comparison we each live our own realities that can't be subjected to objective standards.
Some of us aren't cut out for life long monogamy or having children or starting a family but these things are personal choices not obligations for one to achieve.
When we don’t have knowledge of our self the preferences we hold the things that work for us and don’t we won’t be able to find the life we want to live . Base those choices around you not what society wants you to believe what you’re meant to be . Didn’t experience love and romance as a teen or have that teen love that tvs show don’t worry there’s hope later on in life to experience those same things . The lack of experience or experiencing it later Than anyone doesn’t define anything. Besides love is just a concept we are lead to believe is a purpose of life and a symbol of a good life.
Happiness within itself is popularized theme of the ultimate goal to obtain in life as well but happiness isn’t obtainable by the same measures for all .I suffered depression my entire life but I learned to cope through life based on who I am and my unique structure happiness never was something I was able to grasp.
Happiness isn't the goal for life or the purpose and not having it doesn't mean you're life isn't a good one. Happiness like most emotions is highly Conditional dependent upon circumstances and experiences. Happiness Can never be obtained permanently only temporary. Its not a perfect place we arrive at .which causes people to keep chasing after it .
Chasing a butterfly it may stop on sit on your shoulder but it will fly away eventually. Holding on to it will hinder yourself since it wasn't meant to be captured. Life is a mixture of many phases and emotions that pass by attaching yourself to any outcome or emotion causes pain and disappointment. Don’t fall into to a never ending chase after happiness and living to others expectations compare your life to your reality alone not others .you'll find yourself always seeking a new job a new partner or doing things to become happy just to realize it wont make you happy it can contribute to it but it isn’t the answer.
It’s impossible for anyone else to define YOU.
You are indefinable. You are the only one in this world who gets to say who you are. Circumstances and the opinions of others can only define you if you allow them to. Do not give away your power and the magic of your essence by putting weight on negative situations in your life or the negative words of other people most of all free yourself from the tryanny of soceital expectations.
