They say that “the past belongs in the past.” I could not agree more.
For some of us, the past continues to haunt us. It creeps up on at the most inconvenient times, usually when we are trying to work towards a better future. For others, the past has been left in the past, something behind a lock and key of some sort. If you are anything like me, one of the only things you want regarding the past is to leave it where it belongs: in the past.
We all have different aspects of our lives that we wish to leave behind. For some of us, it’s bad habits. For others, it’s past relationships. Some of us just wish to erase embarrassing moments that should never be spoken of ever again.
Here is what I am going to tell you. There is a reason why things are meant to stay in the past. We all have that one family member that brings up moments of the past and you secretly want to dump your drink on them and/or throw the food at them every time they bring it up. Or is that just me?
Anyway, there needs to be something said about the respect that goes along with this. If someone doesn’t like to talk about it, don't bring it up. For goodness sake, if you don’t like to talk about your past, chances are, others don’t want to talk about theirs.
Remember that one boy or girl that you dated? There is a reason why you two aren’t together anymore. Keep that in mind. I might be stepping on some people’s toes here but, sometimes it's hard to accept that. If it is supposed to work out, then it will figure itself out in the end. Some people are not meant to stay in our lives for forever. They are meant to be a lesson or a blessing, depending on how you want to look at it.
Do you recall those embarrassing moments that contribute to your childhood? Some might call them the dreadfully embarrassing times. Or the times from a dark, dark, dark place. You know those? Yeah, chances are you never, ever, ever, want to discuss those. If someone tries to bring them up, tell them you aren’t available and run away. I’m just kidding, don’t do that. If you really want to bother them, remind them of their embarrassing moments. It might make it awkward but whatever, they started it. But actually, say you don't want to talk about it. Just agree to never discuss them and move on. If people bring up pictures from your past, then you are kind of out of luck, (sorry).
You get the point. The past is supposed to be the past. It is not supposed to creep into your life in the present, and most of all it should not be a strong determinant in the future. Yes, the past is what makes up a lot about who we are as individuals today, but no one wants to be haunted by it. Do us all a favor and move on, please.
