I’ve never really been the one to constantly fret about “meeting the one.” That is, until I came to college of course.

New people, new places. Somehow, somewhere along the way, the goal became to date, to grow up, and to get married (and of course get a job along the way). The goal became the husband. That perfect man that just gets you. That guy that will always put a smile on your face. That man that is so in love with Jesus that you can’t help but want to be with Him, and him.

We’re in such a rush to find “that man” or “that guy” that we fail to miss the real goal.

We get so wrapped up that love becomes distorted. We look at other’s in relationships with envy. We believe in false lies, thinking that “no guy will ever like me”. Our train of thought spirals: “I’m not worthy”, “I’m not beautiful”, “I’m unloved”, and so forth.

We have forgotten what true love is. Love is more than holding hands, going on dates, or staying up all night talking. Granted, those events make us happy and giddy, but they’re not true love.

“This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters” (1 John 3:16).

That is the goal. He is the goal. Not him.

True love is the love Christ had for us.

We focus so much on meeting him, that we forget to continue to actively learn and know Him, the man that has loved us since the beginning of time.

There isn’t anything wrong with being in a relationship. It’s as beautiful thing – human beings thrive off of relationships. But there also isn’t anything wrong with not being in a relationship. What is wrong is being so absorbed in having a perfect relationship that we forget about the man who will be with us forever: Christ, our savior.

To all my ladies out there. You are worthy. You are perfectly imperfect. You are beautiful. And above all else, you are LOVED and CHERISHED by a KING.