This is something that knows no boundaries. It doesn’t care about how many figures is in your bank account, it doesn’t care about the color of your skin, it doesn’t care if you are a millennial or a Gen X, it doesn’t care if you have a disability. It simply does not care.
Sadness.
Sadness is something that everyone experiences, and yet we treat it as such a taboo object.
Why do we treat sad people like they need to be cured of a plague? Sure there are times when humans take medicine to help them stop the sadness, but animals in the wild don’t. They live. Living with sadness certainly isn’t pleasant but it’s very doable.
Why is being allowed to feel sadness seen as such a wrong thing to do? Why can’t I spend a day lying in bed and grieving? Why must you force happiness upon me to “make me feel better”? The only emotion that people want to deal with when they are around you is happiness. Have you ever stopped and thought about that? - Why is that? Happiness is easy to handle.
Sure happiness makes the world a smiley, sunshine place but without ever feeling sad how would you truly know how wonderful something or someone is?
SADNESS IS OKAY.
Please stop telling me to “be happy, today is a new day.” I know it is and I’m grateful for it, just let me feel the way that I need to feel and eventually things will be better than they have ever been. We as humans grow more from sadness than any other emotion (in my opinion.) Sometimes I’m going to wake up and I will hate myself and I will hate the world and I will maybe hate you too, for no reason whatsoever. On these days I will be unreasonable and grumpy and incapable of smiling. The last thing that I want you to do is try to cheer me up. I want to be loved and accepted in spite of not being my most smiley sunshine self.
The world wouldn’t be as beautiful as it is without the sadness in the world. Think of how many beautiful pieces of art come from sadness. For example, a top seller right now—"Milk and Honey" by Rupi Kaur. The entirety of the book are poems about how she was destroyed by sadness and how she overcame it. It’s an amazing work of art that is helping many people through the rough patches of their lives. Sadness helps people and hurts people. It’s one of the most complex emotions that the human race deals with. People leave when sadness enters the room because it’s easier to run away and ignore it. That’s why it’s important to let people deal with it in their own way. Please don’t jump down their throats and say “be happy!!” or “cheer up!” They will in due time. Let them feel sadness and process it before they try to suppress it. Suppressing anything is never the best way to deal with things. Suppressing things lets them manifest and then a monster grows out of that. The name of that monster? Depression. We love people when they are happy. Start loving people when they are sad.
Feeling sad is helpful.
Feeling sad is sad in itself.
Feeling sad gets better.
