We all have one. Some of us have been blessed with a biological sister. Some of us were blessed with a house full of sisters in college. Some of us were blessed to have a sister by heart, the friend that is so much more. We all have a sister who we love and want to be happy one day with the right guy. She is important to us and we don’t need a guy to keep messing it up as much as some already have.
To you, the man who will one day marry my sister,
First off, let me tell you how grateful I will be for you. You will be the man she will decide to spend forever with and for some that’s is a huge step. But, I need you to know some things before the big day comes.
You should understand, her life hasn’t been easy. It probably took a lot for her to love you like she has in the past. The difference, is you are the man and she has only dated boys. Her past comes with battles that she may still be fighting. I have seen her go through so much and I don’t want her to go through more with you. No, the road with her will not be easy (it isn’t even easy for me).
Fight for her, even when you already won her over. Don’t be stupid and go out and check out other females. She has eyes, she can see you doing this. So DON’T. Love her, in the smallest ways possible. Don’t think that just because you put a ring on it means she is at your dispense. She is a human and deserves to have the same respect from you as the day you first saw her and the day that you knew she was the one. Don’t ever give up on her either. You fight, until there is nothing left to fight for and hopefully you won’t have to fight that hard.
You should love her family almost as much as you love her. You will never be accepted into that family until you notice the sacrifices it has taken for them to be where they are. This is her sister talking. You better know I will hate you until I see you give her the life she deserves. Don’t think for one second my family will accept anything less from you either. I hold high standards for myself and for my sister. You need to match them and if you don’t, you aren’t worth her time. Also, remember no matter what her mom will most likely be her best friend. Don’t mess with that bond. It is something so special and you won’t understand it because you aren’t a female. A mothers bond with her daughter should never be messed with and don’t be the one who tries to burn the bridge. Love her family like they are yours.
The last thing I need you to do, love her unconditionally. She is stubborn, hard to get along with and a pain (I lived with her I know). God says it loud and clear. "4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-5. If nothing else, live by that. The arguments are not worth “winning” if you truly love her. Love is not easy, if it is easy then it probably isn’t right. She will be your queen, treat her like one and love her like one.
Bottom line, don’t give up on her. By loyal, be kind and be in love with her. Don’t ever fall out of love with her. If you put that ring on her finger, please know what you are getting into with her. Remember this is a long term commitment and you better take it serious. You are the one for her if she sees fit. Don’t take her feelings lightly, there is a reason she chose you.
With loving concern,
The sister of your one day bride
