Every girl dreams of finding their prince charming and envisioning what their wedding will look like,they plan to the very detail of flowers and food while constantly on the search for Mr. Right. This can take years which can lessen your enthusiasm of finding him, I know mine has over the years. The idea of finding prince charming in today's society is pretty much nonexistent but I urge you to try to avoid looking into societies expectations for what is considered the "perfect man" and into the Bible. Yes, I love a good man bun and built body but that may not always be the person you should look for in your future husband. So here are the characteristics I want in my future husband:
1. Dependable
How can you have a marriage where neither of you can depend on one another? The thing is you can't and if you do try it will most likely fail with heartbreak. In this day and age finding dependable people and especially men is not always easy, people are most self-oriented instead of wanting to help others; they also don't like depending on other people because are so entrust worthy. But God calls for us to search for a dependable man in Psalms 15: 4, one who will not change and condemn a vile man but instead show them the love and acceptance of Christ.
2. Patience
Being patient in this is society is pretty much a rarity, we are so fast paced with our lives that we have forgotten what its like to slow down and relax for a bit. By having patience a person is able to handle many of the tribulations that are thrown our way, by facing these difficulties we learn to have more patient and trusting of God. This can be extremely difficult, trust me, and miserable yet i feel that I have grown more patience and understanding over the years which has saved from trouble. How can you have a marriage if your husband is patient with you being constantly late for dinner or any of our shenanigans? God explains this in Romans 5: 3-4 and how patience leads to hope which is what God gives us every day we breathe, we have the patience to wait for his plans to play out and have hope that it is for our best interest.
3. Bold
Now there is a fine line between being bold and being cocky, which no body enjoys dealing with or maybe that is just me. Being bold means being confident in yourself and in God, that you confidently every day knowing the King of all Kings is walking beside you experiencing life with you; you have the confidence to exhaust God in the most troubling times and to share his love of all people by sharing the gospel with sinners. God says this in Acts 4: 29 by giving us the boldness to speak his truth to all people no matter how daunting it may seem. Now to me that is the ultimate definition of sexy in a man, don't you agree?
4.Love
The idea of love in society has shifted entirely into a whole other meaning, the love that society expresses is that people should focus more of their relationship on themselves and not on the other person. It's a more self-centered approach. But God's idea of love was expressed when he was nailed to cross and endured every sin of humanity on his bloody shoulders. Your husband must have a love for Christ and his church that is so bold and strong that it comes before you; his love should be a representation of Christ and so should your marriage. Look to Ephesians 5: 25 to see bold proclaims of how a husband's love should be represented unto you. Why not have a love that is so powerful just as God's love is for us?
These are just a few characteristics of what to look for in your future husband. I think society places this pressure on us to find a partner that is physically attractive while spiritually and internally they are dry as bones. This idea does not work out and you can based on the divorce rates that continue to increase as the years go on, so women I urge you look for the internal and spiritual aspects of a man.
