Hey boy,

After everything you put me through, people would probably assume I hate you. But honestly, that’s just not the case. I’m honestly thankful to have met you. You taught me more about myself than I ever even thought imaginable. So thank you. Thank you for walking away, because honestly, I don’t even know if I would’ve been able to do that on my own.

I knew I needed to, and I knew that the relationship was over way before you ended it, but you definitely helped by leaving so easily. And I was finally able to see that what we were dealing with on a regular basis was and is never okay. No one should have to put up with the things you put me through.

You made my anxiety worse. You constantly made me question my worth. I felt like I always had to be someone I wasn’t when I was with you, someone who you would want to spend the rest of your life with.

But that’s not the point of a relationship, and I realize that now. You’re supposed to help me grow, not belittle me.

You were supposed to make me feel beautiful, and because of you, I was constantly tearing myself apart. You broke my confidence, and now without you, I am more confident than ever.

Not only did you show me that I deserve better, but you showed me exactly what I don’t want in a relationship. I don’t want to feel alone, or incapable. I want to feel beautiful and confident, and be with someone who fills my dreams with hope and confidence.

So thank you. You see, I thought you were sent from Heaven above for me—but looking back now, I was just looking at you through a lover’s eyes. I should’ve known from day one that you weren’t the one for me. But I didn’t listen, and I gave you a chance, for over a year as a matter of fact.

But now I know that I don’t want to have to question my worth in my future relationships; I don’t want to feel like a burden or a bother. I want to feel loved and feel like the person wants to spend time with me. I want them to want that connection with me, something that we never really had.

Because of you, I realized that I was made for more (not to toot my own horn or anything). I wasn’t just going to be your girlfriend when you needed attention or an excuse to get out of the house. I want to be with someone who genuinely enjoys being around me, and wants to be around me.

Imagine that, a relationship where the two people enjoy just being around each other. I deserve someone who loves me for me and wants to learn everything about me. And I bet you don’t even know my grandmother’s name. Sad, isn’t it?

And looking back now, I definitely do not want to be with someone who can throw away everything so easily. At the end, you were so quick to quit and give up when things became difficult, that I didn’t even deserve a face-to-face conversation. You took the easy way out, just like always—with a text message.

A coward.

And you deleted me off of your mind just as easily, like nothing had ever even happened. Like you never even really loved me. I blamed myself for everything, for not being there all the time, and for pushing you away—but now I know that simply wasn’t the case.

It wasn’t my fault that you left. I did nothing but love and support you. I just wish you could have at least tried to do the same for me for the past year.

So that’s just it, you’re a coward. And I definitely do not want to take on all the adventures of life with a coward, so thank you for leaving when you did. You really saved me. You saved me from spending forever with someone like you.

I always hope for the best in people, and I always found myself making excuses for you, when I knew deep down that I should’ve just walked away. The second I was questioning my worth, I should’ve left… I just hoped we had something more.

So thank you for doing it for me, because without you being the coward you are, I wouldn’t be as happy as I am today. I wouldn’t be the person I am today if it wasn’t for you and all the pain and tears you caused me. But I’m delighted I never have to see you again.

So thank you for all the crap you put me through. Because I'm free.

And now I’m better than ever. Without you.

Sincerely,

The Ex You’ll Never Hear From Again