We’ve all been in a situation in our lives where we’ve felt like we were a second choice. For a relationship, for a job, or for whatever else. But there’s a girl that feels like that all the time- like no matter how hard she tries, there’s always someone or something better than her. This is for that girl.
I wish I could tell you how many times you’ll have to feel like this before it gets better. I wish I could warn you before you get into a relationship that you’re just a rebound, or his second choice, or the thing that’s keeping him distracted. It seems like it always happens to you, doesn’t it? You keep hearing the same story from different guys, and you thought you’d get used to it, but it hurts every time.
What if I told you this was the last time?
No more being a second option. No more being kept around solely for someone else’s entertainment while they wait for someone else to come along. No more feeling like you weren’t good enough for them. Because from now on, you’re your own first choice.
You are so much more than the girl he lied to and led on. You are not the way he made you feel about yourself, and it’s time for you to realize it. You’re so much more than anyone’s backup, because you’re you. You’re pretty amazing, and I can guarantee someone else thinks you are too. You can only go through so many rough times before you find the person that’s going to give you the world and treat you how you deserve to be treated. But before you find someone to do that, you have to do it for yourself. In order for things to get better, you have to take the first step and make yourself a priority.
Take a step back and look at yourself. You’re at a pivotal time in your life- so many great things are coming your way, and you can’t let anyone or anything keep you from seeing these opportunities. So clear out all of the thoughts and feelings he made you feel about yourself. You are not the girl he made you feel like, you’re the girl that you see in your achievements, your dreams, your plans. You are whoever you want to be, and you are not a second choice. Look at yourself this way, and the more you believe it, the more other people will too. Take the time to find all of the things you love about yourself, and the rest will come easily.
So, please remember that you are not what anyone else makes you feel- you’re how you see yourself. Anyone who makes you feel anything less than important is not worth your time or tears. Never question your self-worth, because you’re number one in my book.
Nobody’s Second Choice