I think most of us can agree that first serious relationships are weird and interesting, but most of the time, heartbreaking. If you find the perfect man in your first serious relationship, congratulations. You are one of the lucky ones. You find yourself doing anything for this person because you think you will never find better. Girl, we have all been there, and i can tell you with confidence, there is a light at the end of that dark, long, tunnel. I know I have found that light.

I was that girl who was naive in my very first serious relationship in high school with an older guy. I "thought" I had found my soulmate and that I was so lucky, to only be wronged and brainwashed, constantly. Constantly forgotten and lied to. Trust was always tested and broken. I gave up all of my time and effort into one stupid boy who wronged me, then would swoon me back to him somehow. I put everything into this relationship to get absolutely NOTHING back.

I was that girl who was told no one would accept me or that I would never find someone else if I left. I think this is the main reason why many of us stay in these treacherous relationships, even when we know we don't deserve that kind of treatment. We stay out of fear. What kind of relationship is based on fear? From a first-hand experience, not a good one. Settling because we are comfortable and afraid that what that boy is telling us, might be true. That we will never be able to find comfort being alone or being with someone else.

I was that girl who turned into someone no one recognized. I was constantly upset, angry, and mean. The one God has picked for you should bring out the best in you, not the worst. I was no longer the fun and bubbly girl. Negativity constantly clouded my judgment and I could never bring my self to see anything positive in any situation.

Sophomore year in high school and sophomore year of college... two completely different me's. Two completely different outlooks on life.

Now, I am that girl who found better. I have found the one God picked for me and I have NEVER been happier in my entire life. Be with someone who will make you a better you and puts Christ first in every aspect of your relationship. Someone who will sit down and talk things out with you instead of using violence and cruel words. Someone who will support you through every little event or accomplishment in your life. Someone who puts your happiness before theirs. Someone who would give you the moon and the stars if they could.

There is someone out there who is meant specifically for you. Do not give up and do not settle out of fear. A Christ-based relationship is the best kind of relationship to have and if you have that, you have everything.