When I was younger, I would always map out a timeline of how I would want my perfect life to be. I would always say that I would get engaged my senior year of college, married by 23, and have a child at 26 so I could be a hot mom (you know we all want that).
However, I'm also really big on dating for a long time before I get engaged. Here I am about to turn 20, and there's no boyfriend in prospects of being a husband. I decided that I needed to actually think about what I would want in a husband, so I will know whether or not a guy is someone that I'd actually want to be with. Here is my list of 10 things that my future husband will have.
1. A sense of humor.
I'm the funniest person I know, or at least I tell myself that. I constantly crack jokes and I appreciate a guy that can do the same. Laughing is one of my very favorite things in life, and if I'm going to spend the rest of mine with someone I sure hope he's funny. And he has to think I'm funny too.
2. A strong work ethic.
My dad constantly worked so hard to give my family what we needed and wanted, and I expect my husband to be the same way. I was always taught that you can achieve anything you wanted if you were willing to put in the work. This is something I wish to pass on to my kids, and I believe that my husband and I would need to set the example for them. Having strong work ethic also gives you character and makes you appreciate things much more, which is something that I wish to see in my husband.
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3. A giving heart.
It's one thing to be a nice person. It's a completely different thing to be selfless, caring, and want to serve others. A giving heart allows a man to help others in need, to not act for his own personal gain, and to work according to the Lord.
4. A future.
This is a big one that a lot of girls seem to forget about. He might be the biggest frat star on campus and super cute, but he is going nowhere in life. This is a big deal considering his future will also be yours. I need to marry a man that has goals and dreams, and has the capabilities of achieving them.
5. A good amount of patience.
My brother once told me that he feels sorry for the guy I end up marrying. I can be a pain. I have an attitude sometimes and always have a whole lot of sass. I can be a little dramatic and even emotional. It's going to take one very patient man to put up with me on an everyday basis. And God bless him for doing so.
6. A love for family.
I was raised in a household that family came second only to God. Family has always been a very big part of my life and heart. This man will need to love family, not only his own, but our future one together. I wish to be a mother someday, and my future husband must be able to love our family unconditionally.
7. A sense of leadership.
Call me old-fashioned, but I believe that a man is the head of a family. In my marriage, I expect to consult with my husband about how decisions will be made and what we will do as a family, but then I will stand behind my husband as I know he will lead our family in the right direction, just as my father did.
8. A desire to be chivalrous.
Not just because his mom would kill him if he didn't, but because he was raised to genuinely want to show chivalry toward his wife and others. I feel so respected when I have the door opened for me, see a man standing up to greet me when I arrive, or running to get the car when it's pouring down rain. I feel special when a man brings me coffee or flowers for no reason, gives me his coat when I'm cold, or swoops me up and carries me over that puddle because it would ruin my shoes. Chivalry is most certainly not dead, and I'm a huge fan.
9. A wide variety of interests.
I like many different things. For example, I listen to about four different kinds of music in one day, and I go from reading to riding four-wheelers. I'm kind of all over the place. It is always good to have interests in common, and it would definitely be good for me to be with a man who likes a lot of different things as I do. This way I won't be watching the same western movie every night for the rest of my life, and every day will be a new adventure.
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10. A relationship with God.
This one is the most important. When I look to my future 50 years from now, I see myself sitting in church on Sundays next to my husband that I've been married to for many years. A relationship, and especially a marriage, should be centered around Christ. I want to avidly work to serve the Lord and I want to do it together. I will also raise my children in a home centered around faith. What I need is a man who will pray with me, grow with me in a relationship between ourselves and God, and help me to raise our children with love and knowledge of our Maker.
Bonus: nice teeth. I'm a sucker for a winning smile. We're always told that looks are not important when it comes to picking a guy, but that doesn't mean that it isn't a nice plus. So here's hoping my future beau has some pretty pearly whites.
And they lived happily ever after.