I know what you are going through. You are in a situation where you are trying to be tougher, look stronger and feel better. You feel like you are slowly losing yourself to something larger than you are. You feel like something is missing. Like someone took that missing piece and unknowingly captivated your body, taken your mind to find a new space to occupy in somewhere else. You don't feel like yourself anymore; you don't feel like the person you think you are.

Getting your confidence back where is belongs feels like a never ending cycle of self-help books and unwanted therapy sessions with social media. You have no idea how you could let go something that made you feel wonderful. Made you feel like you had a purpose. Now how you let it slip might be from that boy who you thought you couldn't live without or the parent that repeatedly told you that you are not enough. Some people that come into our lives are not always meant to stay. Parents are not perfect.

A piece of clothing, makeup or perfume are all replaceable. These objects are not mirror images of who we are and how we see ourselves. These objects fuel our emotions in a society where you are only pretty if you have an insane amount of likes on Instagram. Followers come by the masses with likes and comments reassuring yourself that you are beautiful. To regain your confidence you need to reshape it into the form of yourself. All the reassurance you need should be from you, not a person behind a computer screen.

Words are not enough to rebuild a person's confidence. It all comes from within. You might be lost for now but finding yourself will be a learning experience. It is like you're trapped in the same body but not the same mind. Confidence makes you different. Confidence makes you human, it lets you feel alive and appreciative of what you have.

In today's world, you're not allowed to have self-confidence unless you have a reason. When you do defy the odds and have confidence, when you actually dare to be accepting of yourself people don't know how to handle you. People assume you're arrogant, vapid or self- centered.

Obtaining confidence is difficult because we feel like we should have it based on our physical appearance, materials we have or the social class we stand in. To regain confidence we should be building ourselves up from our intelligence, compassion, how hard we work, humor, engagement in something new and nailed it, giving back to the community and teaching what we have learned to others.

Confidence is not going to change overnight. But a good place to start is to stop comparing yourself to others. Stop putting yourself down to make others feel comfortable. Stop asking for permission to like yourself. Stop hoping someone else will validate your physical appearance or sense of worth and for it for yourself.