I know that not all friendships are made to last forever and I guess ours happened to be one of them. Things change, people grow apart, life happens -- I get it, not every BFF actually sticks around forever. The worst end to a friendship though is when it happens due to a third party, in this case, a boy. One very important life lesson I have picked up in the past 19 years is that boys suck and they should never be put before family and friends. Yet somehow an unfortunate amount of my friendships have ended because a boy was chosen over me.
To the friends I have lost because of a boy,
In my eyes, it was not supposed to be the end. We were young and foolish and at that age we thought that boys were everything. We thought the boys we loved in high school were going to become our husbands some day, remember that? We promised that no matter what we would always put each other first. We would never let anybody get in the way of us -- we were partners in crime. Until he came along, at least.
Friday nights were no longer you and me time; instead, you spent them with him and would occasionally invite me along for the ride. I did not usually mind third wheeling but it started to become the only time we actually hung out. Maybe I don't understand because I have never had a serious relationship, but I would like to think if I were in your shoes I would walk a lot differently.
Maybe the guy you are with now, well maybe he is the one. But, even so I thought that you would have wanted me at the wedding.
I am sorry that I cannot understand how you love him so much so that he became your only friend. I know that balancing a relationship, school, work and just life in general is difficult but how hard is it to pick up the phone and call every once in a while? Or even a text message. I am sure you spend your whole day communicating with him though you surprisingly could not find the time to reach out to me.
Maybe you wanted me gone. Maybe our friendship was burnt out. And if that is the case then I am truly sorry. But, at one point in time we were all each other had and once he entered the picture I was pushed right out of the frame.
I do not expect an apology; in fact, I do not want one. Because if you were really sorry or if you really missed me then you would have told me, that was always how you were.
I hope that you are happy and I hope that he treats you well. And if he leaves you, well, I'm sorry that I will not be the one you call.
Sincerely,
I hope he was worth it
