To That Friend I Lost Touch With

To That Friend I Lost Touch With

Just because we haven't talked in years doesn't mean that I have forgotten you.

Hello old friend,

How have you been? It has truly been years since we last spoke. I am sorry about that. Somehow we lost touch and now I can’t remember the last time we talked. It really is a shame we haven’t gotten together more, we had the best of times and some of the hardest laughs.

I remember our sleepovers, planning our lives out together. It is kind of funny how much has changed from our seventh-grade fantasies. I was sure that at this time would probably be at different schools, but definitely still talk. We would get ice cream at the place near my house in the summer and have movie nights in your basement.

This may be weird, but I still remember your room vividly. I mean, we practically lived at each other’s houses for a few years. I wonder if it is still the same, or if you painted over the walls to something more “sophisticated” and “grown up.” I remember you talked about doing that once in the notebook we wrote to each other in. If you are dying to know, my walls are currently lilac.

I hope that your family is well. I honestly miss them. They adopted me like another daughter and made sure that I was well fed whenever I came over. Now being a college kid with a usually crappy meal plan, I truly appreciate all the food your parents cooked for us. Please squeeze them extra tight next time you give them a hug for me.

I can’t believe that it has been so many years since we talked. I don’t even know what you are studying in school, or better yet, if you are even in school. Every once and awhile your photo pops up on Facebook, so at least I know you are still out there, somewhere. I truly hope that you are happy. You deserve to be.

It is hard having grown so far apart. It would be nice to get together and talk, but I don’t know if it would be weird or not. Could we just pick up where we left off? Or would it be like meeting a totally different person? I have changed over the years and I am sure you have too. I like to think that we would still be friends, but I don’t know.

I miss you in my life friend. Your personality and quirks were uniquely you and you always encouraged me to be a better person. I wish you many blessings. Quite a few birthdays went by since we last talked, but don’t think I have forgotten what day it is. Don’t ever forget what an incredible person you are, you are strong, brave, beautiful, kind, and caring, just to name a few.

If you ever want to get a coffee, I still think it tastes gross, but I’ll grab a hot chocolate instead. It’s about time for a reunion.


The friend who misses you.

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All my love this Valentine’s Day goes out to you, my friend, because you do not receive it enough. You have picked me up out of the dirt, brushed me off, and kissed my wounds more times than I can count, and I will never be able to thank you enough for that, but I am sure am going to try.

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Blood Doesn't Determine Family

Blended families are just as much of a family as a traditional one.


If you look above, you can see that have a very large family on my mother's side. Between my grandparents, aunts and uncle, cousins and my own immediate family, we're at thirty-three members and counting. All branches of our family tree have busy lives, so we don't get to see each other as much as often as we would hope to. Christmas is the one time a year where we all finally get together for the evening. If you sat in on our holiday party, you may think that we have a couple screws loose, but there is no doubt that you would be able to feel the love radiating from room to room.

If you look at the picture I chose for my header, you can see all of the cousins gathered for our yearly picture. Dysfunctional, of course, but you can tell that love is there. Would it surprise you that out of our entire huge family, less than half of us are blood-related?

I come from a blended family, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Blood does not determine family to us. Love does.

Divorce can be a messy thing, especially when children are involved. Both my aunt and uncle had remarried into relationships that already had children. For the most part, none of us can really ever remember a time when we weren't considered family. We don't ever look at each other as not being related. We never will. Family to us is the love and support that is shared unconditionally between us.

As I said, you would never be able to tell we weren't blood-related unless I told you. Not only do we all look similar to one another (which again is odd, because if the marriages had never taken place, we would just have a ton of doppelgangers running around), but the love and passion that we radiate is unmistakable that we have a bond that will never be broken, let alone determined by biology.

Blended families tend to get a bad rap sometimes from some of the horror stories that can come from second marriages. Not only that, but some people still are stuck in the idea that the only socially acceptable type of family is one where the lineage is clear and concise. Although I can see where these people come from, I don't believe that because there is a lack of shared genetics between all of us, our love is any less strong.

Family is those who will answer a call or text late at night because you need someone to talk to. They're the ones that you end up staying at their house and talking for hours when you meant to make a quick trip in. They are there for you no matter the situation and always believe in you one hundred percent.

Traditional families have a lot of love too, undoubtedly. But please, do not tell me that my family is any less of a family of a family because of its makeup. We have just as much love between us as families with the same bloodline. Blood does not determine the amount of love and affection between all of us. It never will. We will love each other as much as a traditional family. We never look at each other as a mixed family, so please stop treating us as such.

I've said it so many times, but I'll remind you once more. Blood does not determine family, love does-- and I love my family more than life itself.

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