Sometimes people assume that being alone means that you are lonely, antisocial or introverted. But often that’s not the case. People by nature are social creatures; we crave company, whether it is from an online friend, a pet, family, or your local old ladies that go to Zumba class with you.
On the other hand, when we are utterly alone we tend to struggle with the thoughts that reside in our mind, body and soul. Many people are afraid to be alone with their thoughts, because the person who judges you the most is, well, you. And that stigma needs to change. Self-love starts from the inner core. It is becoming friends with yourself and your inner thoughts.
There are days where you might say something cruel about your own appearance, something you would never say to a friend or partner or even a stranger, so why would you treat yourself the worst? There is nothing wrong with you. You are a good person that deserves love and care and affection. So, first things first, get to the root of the negativity you have towards yourself.
Some people might say that they have low self-esteem, but why? When you figure that out, it will give you insight about what to do about the issue. If you feel uncomfortable in your body, the first step to change how you feel inside is how you feel about yourself on the outside. Even a simple change like waking up earlier or replacing one soda with a bottle of water should make a difference.
Being comfortable in your skin is hard, especially when you are alone, that’s why it’s important to befriend yourself. Get to know yourself, and slowly fall in love with yourself. As cliché as it sounds, you are the person that remains in your own life forever. Relationships will fall apart and fade, people will die, and just in general, there are times where you will be alone. The best thing you can do for yourself right now is to love yourself. No matter how hard it is.
You have to be gentle with yourself. Realize that some of the things you went through in life were not caused by you and you are not guilty for traumatic events that happened in your life. When you stop blaming yourself, you will be able to move onto a new stage of a relationship with yourself. It will open doors to figuring out who you are. Because you are not your abusers, and you are not your mistakes, and you are not your trauma or mental illness. You are a whole person. And you deserve to love yourself. Even if it takes time- it might take a month, it might take a year, it might take five years. The thing is that, you can’t keep hurting yourself. You need to nourish yourself and grow, because the universe believes in you and your strength. You are here for a reason.
