The False Reality We Live In

The False Reality We Live In

It's time to start living.

We set expectations for everything in life -- our grades, jobs, family, love life, personal looks. You name it, we do it. We create a false reality of what's to come. Each and every day we set these standards and expect them all to be met. Why do we do such a thing? Kenneth Burke, an American literary theorist, explains that humans are symbolizing animals, meaning that we function by symbols and not just signs, as animals do. While this is beneficial because it is why we have come to be what we are, there is a downfall. Along with humans being symbolizing animals, brought the idea of perfection and the negative. Both of these are a creation of our own -- we become our worst enemy right from the start.

The standards we set and expectations we have for ourselves are causing us to fail. We expect so much of ourselves and all that we do. We don't always succeed, and immediately we shoot for better and more. I know right at this moment that I do it at every corner of life. I expect to do well in everything, I put false hope in getting all that I wish and try for. I expect to have my life planned perfectly -- a ten-year plan. Graduate with high honors, get my dream job, become successful, find the perfect man and live a wonderful life. Well, as good as it sounds, that is not reality.

While it is good to set expectations and standards for ourselves at times to have a motivation, I'm beginning to think this isn't the most beneficial thing. We set these expectations and when we don't reach them, we immediately beat ourselves up. I think it is time to focus on the now and not the future. If you keep looking ahead and what you're currently not, you'll diminish yourself. We are not defined by our failures, but how we come back from them.

Every single person on this Earth is not like another. We are all different individuals with different lives. Everything in the media and world today is talking and showing how to be better. Better looks, better homes, better jobs, better lives. We need to give this aspect of our society the cold shoulder. Enough with trying to become better and do better and just accept who we are. Our lives were not made to change and point out the imperfections in them. Our lives are for happiness, love and pure bliss. We need to realize this and stop engaging in false realities.

There is always going to be expectations you have in your mind, even if you try to push them away. However, what we need to do is try to see what we have and can do, rather than what we cannot. When we don't get what we want or succeed, we need to realize that is okay. Things won't always go our way, but that doesn't mean it is the end of the world. At the end of the day, all that matters is that you are happy. At the end of things, you will get what you want. Our lives are a constant push and pull. We weren't put on this Earth to be manipulated by things that we've created. Life is to be lived to the fullest and not to be held back by the negatives. It may be the simplest and most over used phrase, but life should be looked at as a glass half-full. It is a journey with many ups and downs, but there is no need for it to be overshadowed by the downfalls.

I have always tried to stay positive and use this metaphor. Recently, after taking a step back and looking at things, I realize as hard as I tried, I got caught up in the whirlwind of life. No matter what happens, I, and you will get to where we want to be in life. Life is about happiness, peace and joy. It is too short to be worrying about every little thing. The important thing is to always remember this -- do not allow yourself to be beaten down by the world. Take a hold and start living your life as you should be.

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I'm The College Girl Who Likes Trump And Hates Feminism, And Living On A Liberal Campus Is Terrifying

I will not sugarcoat it: I don't feel safe on my own campus.


I will get right to the point: being a conservative on a liberal college campus in 2019 downright terrifying.

At my university, I'm sure about 90% of the population, both students and faculty, are liberals. They are very outspoken, never afraid to express their views, opinions, and feelings in several ways. There are pride events for the LGBT community, a huge celebration for MLK day, and tons of events for feminists.

Then there's the minority: the conservatives. The realists. The "racists," "bigots," and "the heartless." I am everything the liberals absolutely despise.

I like Donald Trump because he puts America first and is actually getting things done. He wants to make our country a better place.

I want a wall to keep illegals out because I want my loved ones and me to be safe from any possible danger. As for those who are genuinely coming here for a better life, JUST FILL OUT THE PAPERWORK INSTEAD OF SNEAKING AROUND.

I'm pro-life; killing an infant at nine months is inhumane to me (and yet liberals say it's inhumane to keep illegals out…but let's not get into that right now).

I hate feminism. Why? Because modern feminism isn't even feminism. Slandering the male species and wanting to take down the patriarchy is just ridiculous.

I hate the media. I don't trust anyone in it. I think they are all biased, pathological liars. They purposely make our president look like the devil himself, leaving out anything good he does.

I will not sugarcoat it: I don't feel safe on my own campus.

I mostly keep my opinions to myself out of fear. When I end up getting one of my "twisted" and "uneducated" thoughts slip out, I cringe, waiting for the slap in the face.

Don't get me wrong; not everyone at my university is hostile to those who think differently than they do.

I've shared my opinions with some liberal students and professors before, and there was no bloodshed. Sure, we may not see eye to eye, but that's okay. That just means we can understand each other a little better.

Even though the handful of students and faculty I've talked to were able to swallow my opinions, I'm still overwhelmed by the thousands of other people on campus who may not be as kind and attentive. But you can't please everybody. That's just life.

Your school is supposed to be a safe environment where you can be yourself. Just because I think differently than the vast majority of my peers doesn't mean I deserve to be a target for ridicule. No one conservative does. Scratch that, NO ONE DOES.

I don't think I'll ever feel safe.

Not just on campus, but anywhere. This world is a cruel place. All I can do is stand firm in my beliefs and try to tolerate and listen to the clashing opinions of others. What else can I do?

All I can say is... listen. Be nice. Be respectful of other's opinions, even if you strongly disagree. Besides, we all do have one thing in common: the desire for a better country.

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Dear Young Voices Of America, Stand Up, Speak Up, And Do Something

Our time is now.


Dear young voices of America, I think we can both agree that we are sick of being told we are America's future while simultaneously being told our opinions don't matter. Now I personally do not listen to the people that tell me I'm better seen than heard; however, I know there are people that are a little timider when it comes to raising their voices. I am here to encourage you to be loud and speak up on topics that matter to you. There is no better time than the present to make your voice heard. Whether you are advocating for change in your school or the government, your opinion matters and is relevant.

We are the future of our country. How are we supposed to evoke change and reform if we can't have our voices heard? I call bullshit and I think it's time to take action. Even if you're the first or only person to advocate for your cause, be that person. Don't be afraid of anyone that tries to stand in your way. The only person that can stop you from speaking up for yourself and your cause is you. No matter how many nos you have to hear to get a yes or how many doors you have to knock on to get someone to open up, never give up. Never give up on your cause, never give up on yourself or the people you're representing, just don't do it. There is someone out there that supports you. Maybe they're just too shy to raise their voice too. Be encouraging and be supportive and get people to take a stand with you.

It is never too early or too late to start thinking about your future or to take action. But don't hesitate to say something. The sooner you start speaking up, the sooner you have people joining you and helping you, and the sooner you start to see and experience change. So get up, make that sign, write that letter, make that phone call, take part in that march, give that speech. Do whatever you feel fit to get your point across. Shout it from the rooftops, write it on your profile, send it in a letter, ignore everyone that tries to tell you to give up. Maybe they don't understand now, maybe they don't want to listen, maybe they're afraid to listen, but the more you talk about it and help them understand what exactly you are trying to get across, they will join you.

Even when it feels like you have nobody on your side but yourself, I am on your side. I will cheer you on, I will march with you hand in hand, I will write letters and make phone calls and help you find your voice. My life changed when I found my voice and yours will too.

So dear young voices of America, the time is now. Your time is now. Don't be afraid of the obstacles that you may have to face. Someone is out there waiting for you, waiting to grab your hand and march on with you. As Tarana Burke once said "Get up. Stand up. Speak up. Do something."

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