Communication seems simple enough. All you have to do is say some words and that's it, right? Wrong. Communicating with others is so very different and a lot more complicated. The hard part is that you have to allow yourself to share your feelings and deep personal thoughts with another person who has the freedom to judge you, whether that judgement is open or silent is purely up to that person. I know that sometimes it seems like it would be easier to remain silent. But I want you to believe me when I say that it isn't.
It's not easy for anyone to feel safe about sharing their thoughts. Sometimes it is extremely important for you to just say what needs to be said. In the past, I have made the choice to not say something and remaining silent and that made it so much worse. All I did was stew about whatever it was and it just stayed inside of my head. Usually I do this when it comes to how I feel about someone or something. I don't want to put myself in a position to be hurt so I make the choice to not say a single word. But then, I get consumed by what I could've and should've said, no matter what the outcome could be. That is the point where you should just say it. Accept the fact that not everything can go the way you want it to.
The hardest part for me is not being able to articulate the exact way I want to put out my emotions. I need to use specific words so that they can know exactly how I'm feeling, but sometimes it's impossible. Things get interpreted the wrong way or they don't make a whole lot of sense when they're said out loud. This happens to every single person who has ever tried to articulate their thoughts into words for another person to analyze and understand. You're not alone when you feel frustrated about these situations. But since it happens to everyone, every person should understand what it's like to say something in a way that you didn't necessarily mean to say it in.
Here's a little side note for you. If you're upset with someone about something, tell them. Sometimes people don't even know what they've done until you mention it to them. As my mother would say,"how can I fix something if I don't know that it's broken?" I think that could be one of those age-old adages that every mother tells their children in each generation. But it still is a good thing to remember.
Go out there and share your emotions.
