To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.
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Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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Dear Mom,

I hope you know that I appreciate you.

You are the hardest working woman I know, continuously putting your family before yourself. Thank you for doing all of the tedious jobs that no one wants to do like keeping the house in order, cooking the food, and doing the laundry. Thank you for constantly putting up with my siblings and I. Thank you for always supporting us in our interests and hobbies. Thank you for investing in our daily lives and listening to our minor problems. Thank you for always loving us unconditionally.

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I hope you know I'm sorry.

I know I can be a big pain in the butt sometimes, and for that I'm sorry. I'm sorry for yelling at you, arguing with you, not listening to you, and making dumb decisions at times, but thank you for loving me anyways. Thank you for helping me stand back up, teaching me right from wrong, and pushing me to be the very best version of me.

I hope you know your love inspires me.

You live your life with a love that is contagious. Whether its nurturing love, tough love, friendly love, or romantic love, you have it all and you show it daily. The love you and Dad share is something I hope to find one day and the love you have for your family is evident in the way you constantly put us first.

I hope you know that you are my biggest role model and hero.

Ever since I was a little girl, you have been the person I have looked to in my life. You are strong, independent, confident, loving, supportive, and nurturing-- everything I strive to be as a woman and as a future mother. You give the best advice, even when I don't always take it. Though, I should know better by now because mothers always know best. Without you in my life, I honestly don't know where I'd be.

I hope you know that you are my best friend.

Not only are you my biggest cheerleader supporting me in everything I do, you are the person I talk to about everything, whether it's good or bad. I'm honestly so thankful for the relationship we share because I've had countless screwups and you literally give the best advice. Seriously, thank you for being the person I can count on at all times, at any time of the day or even night to just talk with. I mean we really do have some of the best conversations, best laughs, best cries (when needed), and the most fun watching cheesy chick flicks together or going on crazy shopping adventures.

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I hope you know that I am here for you--until the very end.

I don't mean to make you cry or anything -- even though you probably already are, but I want you to know that when the time comes, I'm going to be there for you just like all of these years you've been here for me. I will be there to support you, talk with you, laugh with you, cry with you, and love you for all of my life.

Honestly, I can't really imagine my life without you -- but it doesn't matter because I wouldn't be here without you, so here's to you.

Thank you for being you.

Love you lots!

Your daughter.

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It's almost the holiday season which means that you are probably looking or going to start looking for presents for those in your life (hmm...this is a hint to not wait until Christmas Eve and you know who you are). You may be making your list and checking it twice just to find out that you have no idea what to buy your college-aged best friend, sister, daughter, niece, or girlfriend because she already has everything that she wants.

She may not be able to tell you exactly what she wants because every time she wants something she just buys it, thanks to her parents making her have a job, so you have no idea what to buy her. I don't want you to start freaking out yet because I'm the college-aged girl who's here to save the day with this list of presents that she will love. (To my family who has no idea what to buy me: all the ideas on this list would make amazing gifts, just saying.)

1. Starbucks gift cards

Starbucks gift cards are always an easy go- to that any college girl will love. Plus we don't feel as bad spending $7+ on a drink when we use a gift card because it's not real money, right?

3. Gift cards to her favorite restaurant!

We are in college and food from our favorite restaurant is a splurge for us on most days.

4. Face masks

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College is stressful and face masks help us relax while helping us take care of our skin.

6. School supplies

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In all honesty, the last semester has been heck and all of our school supplies are gone. Please slip some pens and pencils into our stockings and put some of our textbooks for next semester under the tree.

7. Winter clothes and accessories

Odds are we have been suffering through the cold for the last month because all of our winter clothes have been at home. Please do us the solid and help us update our winter wardrobe by adding some cute sweaters, leggings, boots, beanies, scarves, and gloves into the mix.

8. Vera Bradley

We all are probably are in need of a new something from Vera Bradley...even if we don't "need" it we probably want it. *bonus points if you match the pattern to stuff that we already have*

9.  An all-inclusive spring break...

Every college girl's dream is to have a spring break completely paid for and what better time to make this dream come true than at Christmas? (Just joking....maybe.)

10. Time with you. 

In all seriousness, she will love the gift of being able to relax and spend time with you over the holiday season.

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