6 Reasons Its Okay If I Don't See My Best Friend For Weeks

6 Reasons It Is Okay If I Don't See My Best Friend For Weeks On End

When we do get together, prepare yourselves, because all hell breaks loose


My best friend and I have been friends for years. She has been through all the bullshit, we went to completely different high schools and colleges, and she deals with all the drama. Yet, here we are all those years later. We both have become a part of each other's families and a huge part of each other's lives. Most people think that in order to have a friend that close, you have to be with each other every day. You have to be holding hands, in each others space, and talking constantly.


Let me tell you, my best relationship and my longest friendship is with the one I don't spend every waking minute with. And this is 100% okay. Here is why.

1. She has her own life and I have mine

Hannah Porter

We are both in relationships. So we aren't each other's significant other. That is a huge part of both of our lives. We have our own balance where we make time for each other and still hold a relationship. Sometimes, that means not seeing each other for a little while. This is okay! We don't let anyone tell us otherwise.

2. We will talk nonstop for hours because of all the drama we have to catch up on

Hannah Porter

We will get lost because we forgot about the GPS as we are trying to catch up. It is nonstop stories and gossip. We catch up on each other's families and boyfriends, school, and personal life. There is so much to get caught up on that there is hardly a dull moment. I'd rather have a great time like that then just sitting in silence.

3. We text, a lot.

Hannah Porter

So we may not see each other, but that doesn't mean there aren't Facetimes, phone calls, and texts. When something good happens, she's the first I tell. We might not celebrate until a week or two later, but she knows. When something just cannot wait, we find a way to tell each other.

4. She wants the best for me and I want the best for her

Hannah Porter

We are both in school and work. I want the best for her and she wants the best for me. That means making money and getting good grades. So if there is a weekend we are working, we skip a week or two hanging out. This is 100% okay. I'd rather have her not stressed because she is hanging out with me constantly and not studying.

5. When we see each other, we spend money. Try dinner, shopping, and nails.

Hannah Porter

Think of it as a money-saver. Let me tell you, my bank account would be very dry if we spent every day together.

6. ​There are no hard feelings. We pick right back up where we left off.

Hannah Porter

We both agree that this works for us and there aren't any hard feelings. We pick right back up where we were weeks ago and catch each other up. That is how you know our relationship is strong. I am so truly thankful I have her in my life.

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To My Best Friend Who Doesn’t Know How Strong She Is

Always better together.

To the one I know I will always have by my side,

First off, thank you. Thanks for dealing with all my shit: my mess, drama, tears, and weirdness. There are so many reasons why you are my best friend; you are funny, amazing, kind and unbelievably supportive. I am beyond lucky to have someone that gets me and has been there with me through the best of times and the worst of times.

You are strong.

Life is difficult; I think we have both realized that by now. Whether you believe me or not you are kicking everything being thrown at you in the ass. You have been through everything and more and have always come out of it a stronger, and better person. You are never alone and you know that; we have been there for each other for years and that will never end.

You are special.

I have never met anyone with a bigger heart than you; you sympathize with anyone that comes to you for advice. You take things to heart and look at the world in a unique and beautiful way. You appreciate the little things in life, watching Dance movies with your mom, a late night snack at Taco Bell, driving with the top down and dancing like no one is watching.

You are beautiful.

You are way more beautiful than you think. You've got softness to you that is calming, a smile that is contagious, and a gorgeous girl with so much to offer. You are filled with love and compassion, an amazing writer, dancer and overall an amazing and beautiful person.

You can get through anything.

I know you are going through a hard time right now, but look at how far you've come. You have gone through way worse and you will get through this just like you have in the past. You will become even more powerful than you already are. You are experienced and that's part of what makes me love you so much. We have gone through a lot together and we know that whatever life throws at us we can handle it.

I am always here.

Your hardship is my hardship, but keep your head up high just like I know you can. You have so much love in your life, from your family, your friends and me. I love you, I have never had a friend like you and I am so grateful every day because of it. You are going to get through this. You are going to get through it because you are, powerful, you are beautiful and you are strong.

~Written with love and appreciation for the most amazing friend I could ever ask for~

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How To Cope With A Best Friend Breakup

Breaking up with a boyfriend is one thing, but breaking up with your best friend is a whole new level of heartbreak.


We all know breakups can be tough, but when that breakup happens to be between you and your best friend, things reach a new level of heartbreak. I met my best friend junior year of high school after our Spanish teacher randomly assigned us to be partners; we struggled so much in that class but in the end, we truly became inseparable. When senior year rolled around we were still close as ever; people would often joke that we were sisters because we looked and acted so much alike. We would go on little dates together, go to parties together, and were always the first person we called when something "major happened."

When my best friend's boyfriend of four years cheated on her while we were spring breaking in Europe, it became my duty to make her feel better; I would randomly drop off flowers and little notes to her house, spend countless hours just listening to her cry and vent, and even stopped talking to people associated with her boyfriend so as to show my "support." All of these things were no big deal to me considering I loved this girl like a sister; whatever she needed I was there to give that to her.

Things soon took a sharp turn when we entered not only the same college but the same sorority. While I was struggling with the social aspect of FSU, my best friend soon found new best friends. When I started having major issues with my boyfriend, I would automatically text/call my best friend as she did with me, but instead of support, I got the sense that she was passive and uninterested. Our little dates and goofy inside jokes disappeared and reappeared between her and her new friends, and my comfortableness around her soon turned into insecurity.

Coming to terms with the fact that the girl I knew everything about is now basically a stranger was a hard one to overcome; I didn't want to accept the fact that my best friend decided it was time to find new ones. It's heartbreaking knowing that the special things you shared with a person are now being shared with others, and it's hard to accept the fact that you aren't wanted or needed by the one person you thought would be by your side forever.

Since school has ended I think I have accepted the fact that we're no longer what we used to be. Of course, it still stings when I see social media posts with her new, college friends, but I just have to remind myself that this is part of life and I just have to move on. I will forever cherish the memories I made with her, but it's time to acknowledge that they were made with someone in my past, not with someone in my present.

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