What Are The Real Attributes To Winning An Argument?

What Are The Real Attributes To Winning An Argument?

Is winning an argument all about the grace in which you approach it?

Arguments are an inevitable part of life. Through relationships, friendships and professional associations, conflict of ideas drive productivity and create improvement. Merriam Webster dictionary defines an argument as, “an exchange of diverging or opposite views, typically a heated or angry one.” This definition recognizes that opposite views are present and that there is a discussion regarding them, but it doesn’t recognize whether someone wins or loses an argument. Are arguments supposed to be won and if so how does one win an argument?

Let’s break this down. The first thing behind an argument is content. Usually, there needs to be validity behind the content of the argument. Logically, this makes sense. How can someone win an argument without any validity?

In recent trolling of the internet, I’ve read countless articles which persuasively argue a point which really lacks legitimacy. But how do those people and writings stand out and create such a movement behind their views?

After much contemplation, I decided. It’s not necessarily the reasoning behind the belief, it’s the mannerism in which the belief is presented.

A pristine example is the notorious Adolf Hitler. We can assign the blame of mass annihilation of millions and World War II to him. He created such a movement that took thousands of patriotic militants and turned them into killing machines. Hitler’s ideas were definitely not lawful, just or valid. So how did Hitler achieve such high power, such popularity, and so much success? How did he persuade the general public to argue for his beliefs?

Historians believe one of the reasons he reached his achievements was the mannerism in which he presented himself. In historical accounts, Hitler was described as someone with charisma and strength. He spoke with eloquence which demanded respect and attention. It wasn’t what he was saying that was capturing him, it was his self- promotion and image that drew in his supporters.

The content of what Hitler preached was not really the backbone of his power, it was the nature in which he approached the argument that attributed to his success.

So is winning an argument all about the grace in which you approach it?

Personally, I say it is a huge contributor. I still believe every person needs sound points to persevere in conflict. However, people underestimate the art of communication within a conflict. Screaming, acting out, losing control in an argument, even over valid ideas, discredits the argument entirely. The trick is the method of communication. This is a major key to winning any sort of argument.

So, next time you have a disagreement, not only think about the content of the argument but keep in mind the manner in which you approach it.
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I'm The Girl Who'd Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign

You raise your protest picket signs and I’ll raise my white picket fence.

Social Media feeds are constantly filled with quotes on women's rights, protests with mobs of women, and an array of cleverly worded picket signs.

Good for them, standing up for their beliefs and opinions. Will I be joining my tight-knit family of the same gender?

Nope, no thank you.

Don't get me wrong, I am not going to be oblivious to my history and the advancements that women have fought to achieve. I am aware that the strides made by many women before me have provided us with voting rights, a voice, equality, and equal pay in the workforce.

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For that, I am deeply thankful. But at this day in age, I know more female managers in the workforce than male. I know more women in business than men. I know more female students in STEM programs than male students. So what’s with all the hype? We are girl bosses, we can run the world, we don’t need to fight the system anymore.

Please stop.

Because it is insulting to the rest of us girls who are okay with being homemakers, wives, or stay-at-home moms. It's dividing our sisterhood, and it needs to stop.

All these protests and strong statements make us feel like now we HAVE to obtain a power position in our career. It's our rightful duty to our sisters. And if we do not, we are a disappointment to the gender and it makes us look weak.

Weak to the point where I feel ashamed to say to a friend “I want to be a stay at home mom someday.” Then have them look at me like I must have been brain-washed by a man because that can be the only explanation. I'm tired of feeling belittled for being a traditionalist.


Because why should I feel bad for wanting to create a comfortable home for my future family, cooking for my husband, being a soccer mom, keeping my house tidy? Because honestly, I cannot wait.

I will have no problem taking my future husband’s last name, and following his lead.

The Bible appoints men to be the head of a family, and for wives to submit to their husbands. (This can be interpreted in so many ways, so don't get your panties in a bunch at the word “submit”). God specifically made women to be gentle and caring, and we should not be afraid to embrace that. God created men to be leaders with the strength to carry the weight of a family.

However, in no way does this mean that the roles cannot be flipped. If you want to take on the responsibility, by all means, you go girl. But for me personally? I'm sensitive, I cry during horror movies, I'm afraid of basements and dark rooms. I, in no way, am strong enough to take on the tasks that men have been appointed to. And I'm okay with that.

So please, let me look forward to baking cookies for bake sales and driving a mom car.

And I'll support you in your endeavors and climb to the top of the corporate ladder. It doesn't matter what side you are on as long as we support each other, because we all need some girl power.

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Political Activism Doesn't Have to Be Intimidating, Despite What You May Believe

My experience has taught me to embrace opportunities to be politically active, not shy away from them.


In January of my junior year of high school, I was invited by a close friend to travel with her and her mom to participate in the Women's March in Washington, DC. The issues that fueled the march were extremely important to me and so I jumped at the chance to go.

I remember driving up the night before and hearing on the radio the estimated number of participants for the march and not being able to comprehend that I would be surrounded by so many like-minded people. While reassuring, the prospect of being surrounded by so many emotionally-charged people, especially following the presidential inauguration that sparked a very wide spectrum of people to be in the city, was overwhelming.

The morning of the march I remember walking outside to get coffee and seeing women, men, and children wearing the now infamous pink hats all around.

When it came time to walk over to where the march began to hear the array of speakers for the day, it was hard to walk far at all without running into a crowd of people going to the same place. However, instead of being chaotic and overwhelming, I felt a sense of pride in the fact I was participating in something that mattered to me and impacts so many people, but also a sense of security in that everyone around me was overly kind and dedicated.

The chants and cheering that were broadcast on national news surrounded me all day and not once did I feel unsafe or unsure of my surroundings. I felt like I was part of something bigger than myself and knew that while my presence didn't necessarily make a huge difference in the state of things, it made a huge impact on my life.

Putting myself into a situation where there is a lot of controversies was scary at first. I was afraid of being judged, out of place, of being somewhere that would turn violent and so on. However, I could not be more grateful for the invitation to attend the march because it was truly a life-changing experience.

My senior year, so this past year, was when schools around the country held walkouts in the name for gun reform, safer schools, or whatever motivated students to walk out in the name of ending gun violence at schools. In all honesty, a few years ago I never would have participated, not because of a lack of interest, but because of the concerns I previously held before the women's march.

Again, I am so glad I went to the walkout and was able to hear my peers speak about their concerns about gun violence and be able to look around me and know that I was in the company of other passionate students.

No matter your cause or conviction, I encourage everyone to no longer be complacent with the world around you and let your voice be heard for issues you feel passionate about.

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