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To The Guy That Wasted My Time, Thank You For Teaching Me A Lesson

Not for nothing, but I don't need you anyway!


I saw this picture while I was scrolling through social media that said:

"I stopped searching your name on Instagram to see what you were posting. I stopped looking through girls likes to search for your name. I stopped looking for your name when I checked to see you viewed my Snapchat stories.

I stopped wishing you would finally call or text me to see how I was doing.

I stopped wondering what you were doing all day every day. I stopped worrying about how you were doing and simply how your day was. I stopped waiting for you to realize I was right here. I thought it would never stop until one day everything had to do with you finally did, and that day it finally all stopped... I felt whole again even without you!"

That picture made me realize that, that is exactly how I was living my life for almost a year and a half, and I finally learned that enough is enough. I learned that no man is worth that much no matter. Don't put so much time and effort into someone that could care less about you and what you are doing and what you are liking and aren't liking or even if you have viewed their Snapchat story.

I also realized I didn't want to waste any more of my time caring about someone that could care less about me so I have moved on.

I have moved on to someone that actually cares about me and about my feelings, one that checks in on me and asks me how my day was. One that doesn't ignore me for days at a time one that sends a quick, "Hey, I'm busy today, I'll talk to you when I can." No, I don't make him do that, he does it because he actually cares and is putting in some effort! I have honestly never had someone that puts in effort before in my life, it's kind of sad, but it's all okay now, I have that now! Which, I have to say, is very attractive and I am one lucky girl!

You know they say good things happen to those that wait, well I'm very glad I wasted so much time on you waiting around because by me waiting around, it caused me to lose all interest in you and I found him and he's great!

So, I guess you could that this is a thank you for wasting my time, thank you for being a complete jerk, thank you for leaving me wondering what is so wrong with me, because if you hadn't done any of these things, I would have never found him, the guy that treats me the way I should be treated, and is always reassuring me that there isn't anything wrong with me!

So, again, thank you!

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Why You Should Stop Chasing Him

You deserve better.

They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?

I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.

You deserve to be with someone who makes you fall asleep every night in the middle of texting him because neither of you want the conversation to end. You deserve someone who plans dates for the two of you. You deserve someone who asks you to hang out before midnight. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you just as much as you do with them. You deserve someone who insists on paying for your ice cream. You deserve someone who won't deceive you. You deserve someone who is straightforward. You deserve attention. You deserve affection. You deserve a partnership that is mutual, not one-sided. You deserve to be chased.

You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.

If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.

Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.

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Newsflash! It's Time For Everybody To Love Everybody

Come on, people, get it together.


I, personally, think it's time for everybody to just start loving each other. Now listen, this doesn't mean you need to actually love everyone, but at least accept them. Acceptance is the closest thing we are gonna get to loving each other.

Let me tell you a little something: politics at the moment are very messy. No matter which side it is, it's messy. There is no denying that. If you try to deny that, then good for you, you're not helping anybody. If you really want some change, you need to start being the bigger person. Change isn't about who can yell about something louder or who has the "better" argument, it's about being respectful.

Just because someone has an opposing view does not mean you need to yell at them. Does yelling solve anything ever? Maybe temporarily, like for 2 minutes, but that's about as long as you're gonna get. There's absolutely no need to indirectly say something about certain individuals on social media. Yes, there is freedom of speech, but everybody should keep in mind why they have that right and why they still have it.

I do not understand why it is so hard to be respectful of one another. If someone goes after another person talking about how absolutely terrible it is of them thinking something should be illegal, the person who's being yelled at should respectfully ignore the other individual's disrespectful remarks. If the individual does not stop, then they are not aware that they are making no difference in the world.

What I'm trying to get at here is that in order to love each other, we really need to accept all our differences. If we really want change we need to go right to the sources, not just yell at each other from across the street. If everyone learned to accept each other, life would be a whole lot easier. Is this ever going to happen? Of course not. This is the solution though, whether you think so or not.

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