How Technology Has Killed Dating

How Technology Has Killed Dating

Dating does not exist anymore with this generation, technology is the main cause of it

A few days ago, I sat down to watch a movie. I went on the HBO account to find the movie Brooklyn. Overall, it's about a girl, named Brooklyn, who immigrates to America from Ireland and how everything works out. She has to decide between two guys in the end. This all took place during the 1950's. While watching this movie, I saw a girl being courted by a normal, typical boy.

But after watching, the question arose: What ever happened to the dating scene?

When a girl meets a guy, the first step that always happens is "Can I have your number or snapchat?," or something similar in nature. Then the two start to text back and forth or communicate over social media back and forth. This happens for a few weeks, sometimes even months. This gets to the point where you've already had the conversations that would occur during a typical first date. People make the argument that this just speeds up the "getting to know each other" process. Maybe relationships like this is the reason why there is a much higher divorce rate because we always feel like we are trying to be efficient and rushing through those important first few stages.

During this movie, he actually called Brooklyn to ask her out on a date. These days, men just text the girl asking to hang out. What ever happened to a dinner date? What ever happened to having the courage to ask a girl out face to face?

There is no romance. There is no deep conversations where body language is an important part of the conversation.

Even when dating someone, I hear girls complain all the time about how their man will just text them to hang out. They just assume that they have plans, no wooing or sweeping a girl off her feet, but just a blunt text. While watching this movie, I noticed that even when the couple was going "steady" the guy still called the girl to ask her to go out., not just hang out. A tip for men: at the end of the last date, how about just ask the girl out right then? Girls, you can even do this. Today is a different time -- the man doesn't have to do everything.

Technology has played a vital role in matching via Tinder, eHarmony, Bubble, Match, Just Coffee, and other sites/apps. I have heard success stories of those using these sites, but there seems to be something so impersonal about this method. Tinder also tends to be just a way a person can find a quick date for the night, but not an actual dating. Even then there is some messaging component to it which is fine, but again lacks the personal dating component.

What is with our generation having to be efficient with everything we do including dating? Is this generation simply "living in the moment"? Is this dating style representative of the nature of this generation?

I understand the times are changing, and our generation has a different time constraints. I feel sometimes this is the lazy way or not going the extra mile. We have to accept change at some point, but is this something that really has to change?

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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It's Time For Romance Movies To Start Portraying Love And Relationships More Accurately

It's 2019, get with the times.


Currently, on TV and in the movies, many romance movies have the same storyline. If it's on Hallmark, two people fall in love and complete some kind of mission. If it's in the movies two people date/fall in love, something causes them to break up, then they get back together and everyone lives happily ever after.

The problem is that all of these plots are seriously unrealistic.

All of these movies and TV shows just inaccurately portray how a relationship works in real life. A real relationship takes a lot of work, time, and effort. Not everything is candy canes, unicorns, and comes so easily. There are so many other factors that people have to think about.

I really got into watching these romantic type movies when I started watching PG-13 movies. I would watch them and picture all my relationships going this way. But these movies painted the wrong picture of relationships. I'm not saying my boyfriend is a bad boyfriend at all, he is wonderful! But we both have learned it takes a lot of work, time, effort, and communication. These are things very few romance movies teach us.

Also, everyone expects things from their significant others from what they see in these movies. I was one of those people, but then real life hit. There are bills, jobs, and time management that you have to consider. This doesn't mean that my boyfriend and I don't go out, but we have to choose wisely for what we do and when we do it! We have also found fun things to do at home in place of going out in order to save money.

I understand that many people like to watch these programs and enjoy them. But there needs to be a change to accurately portray a relationship. Personally, I think this is why many young people's relationships don't last - they have watched this easy relationship develop and stay in a movie and they haven't seen what it is like in real life.

So, to those who produce these types of movies and shows, it's time that you start making things more realistic.

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