A few days ago, I sat down to watch a movie. I went on the HBO account to find the movie Brooklyn. Overall, it's about a girl, named Brooklyn, who immigrates to America from Ireland and how everything works out. She has to decide between two guys in the end. This all took place during the 1950's. While watching this movie, I saw a girl being courted by a normal, typical boy.
But after watching, the question arose: What ever happened to the dating scene?
When a girl meets a guy, the first step that always happens is "Can I have your number or snapchat?," or something similar in nature. Then the two start to text back and forth or communicate over social media back and forth. This happens for a few weeks, sometimes even months. This gets to the point where you've already had the conversations that would occur during a typical first date. People make the argument that this just speeds up the "getting to know each other" process. Maybe relationships like this is the reason why there is a much higher divorce rate because we always feel like we are trying to be efficient and rushing through those important first few stages.
During this movie, he actually called Brooklyn to ask her out on a date. These days, men just text the girl asking to hang out. What ever happened to a dinner date? What ever happened to having the courage to ask a girl out face to face?
There is no romance. There is no deep conversations where body language is an important part of the conversation.
Even when dating someone, I hear girls complain all the time about how their man will just text them to hang out. They just assume that they have plans, no wooing or sweeping a girl off her feet, but just a blunt text. While watching this movie, I noticed that even when the couple was going "steady" the guy still called the girl to ask her to go out., not just hang out. A tip for men: at the end of the last date, how about just ask the girl out right then? Girls, you can even do this. Today is a different time -- the man doesn't have to do everything.
Technology has played a vital role in matching via Tinder, eHarmony, Bubble, Match, Just Coffee, and other sites/apps. I have heard success stories of those using these sites, but there seems to be something so impersonal about this method. Tinder also tends to be just a way a person can find a quick date for the night, but not an actual dating. Even then there is some messaging component to it which is fine, but again lacks the personal dating component.
What is with our generation having to be efficient with everything we do including dating? Is this generation simply "living in the moment"? Is this dating style representative of the nature of this generation?
I understand the times are changing, and our generation has a different time constraints. I feel sometimes this is the lazy way or not going the extra mile. We have to accept change at some point, but is this something that really has to change?