Growing up in the land of "Minnesota Nice," I was insecure about my opinions because I never wanted to offend other people. Since many others shared my struggle, I fit right in. Now that I live in Massachusetts (Home of the “Mass-Hole”) being the quiet and appeasing one was not going to work. So, when I tried asking my mom for advice, here's how it went:
Me: (Gibberish and mumbling under my breath)
My mom: “Don’t talk to yourself, it is weird”
Me: “Okay, I will just talk to you”
My mom: “On second thought, go ahead and talk to yourself, I don’t want the responsibility of dealing with your problems.”
Which is why I started talking to myself, and I could not have made a better decision. Now I always do it, despite the fact that it might be a sign of schizophrenia. Ever since taking up the art form that is talking to myself, I feel more confident about my opinions and never have to repeat myself.
Because I know that many of you are still skeptical, I have compiled a list of reasons why this therapeutic technique can change your life.
1. Improve public speaking.
Rehearsing a speech for an audience or a small group in your head is helpful. But, actually saying it out loud to yourself can show you how other people will react to your presentation.
2. Organize your thoughts.
Decision making and goal setting are easier when talked out. When talking out difficult decisions logically, you can weigh out the pros and cons of each decision you make. If you are feeling lost and without purpose, ask yourself what are your priorities, your goals. By verbally acknowledging your goals, it makes them easier to achieve.
3. Always have someone to listen.
People always feel more sure of themselves if they know that someone is listening. If you do not have someone to talk to, just talk to yourself and you can be your own best friend. But be careful what you say, for you are listening.
4. Always get the answer you want.
Because you are the only one listening, you can guarantee to always get your way. Who else better than you to give yourself expert advice.
5. Confidence!!
The best reason to talk to yourself is to build up your confidence level. Whether it be in front of an audience, or making a tough decision, confidence is key. If you speak confidently the first time, people are less likely to argue with you or make you repeat yourself.
I wholeheartedly recommend talking to yourself. You will feel less stressed about things, less anxious, and less like you have no one to talk to. But try not to do it near someone or they might think you are crazy. Besides, you are not talking to yourself, you are simply encouraging your thoughts.
