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PSA: Talking About Your Emotions Does Not Make You Weak

No matter what you are going through, you are strong.

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I've always been afraid of being weak. I don't mean weak as in I can't pick up that box kind of weak but rather emotionally weak. My number one personal rule growing up has always been to never let anyone see me cry, and I've done a pretty good job of not breaking it. Even at my lowest points, I've always managed to put on a smile and act like everything was fine in front of other people. For some reason, I mistook showing any form of emotion as being weak.

I recently came to the realization that my "rule" growing up was absolutely ridiculous. As a result of bottling up all my emotions, anger and stress would build up over time. I often found myself getting irritated over little things because internally there was so much going on.

A few weeks ago, I found myself breaking down in the backseat of my friend's car for what quite literally seemed like no reason. I couldn't even pinpoint why I was upset. For the first time, my friends witnessed me crying. My first instinct was to be embarrassed. My face turned bright red and my stomach started churning when I realized my friends may perceive me as weak. But they didn't. Instead, they talked to me about what was going on and reminded me of how strong I was.

I know that I'm not alone when I say that talking about my feelings makes me feel weak. We live in a society that looks down upon being vulnerable. People are constantly brought down for talking about how This is an issue that affects both boys and girls. I've seen girls get called dramatic a million times for simply opening up about how they feel. Boys get attacked and made fun of for crying or being emotional which makes no sense because it is a completely normal thing!

Talking about your emotions does not make you weak. In fact, being able to talk about your feelings is a sign of strength. It takes a lot for a person to truly be able to open up and get personal with others. As a society, we need to stop shaming people when they are most vulnerable. Everyone has emotions and they are part of what makes us human! If we lived a life without showing our emotions, we would all be robotic. Quite honestly, it would be a pretty boring life.

It is OK to open up and talk about how you feel. It's time to stop being afraid of telling people the things that are bothering you. If you have a hard time opening up to people, remember that they are your friends for a reason. Your friends are not going to judge you or make fun of you for opening up, and if they do they are not your real friends. They are on your side and there to help you through things. That's what friends are for. Don't be afraid to open up and remember that you are strong!

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A list Of 15 Inspiring Words That Mean So Much

A single word can mean a lot.
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Positivity is so important in life. A lot of times we always go to quotes for empowerment but I have realized that just one word can be just as powerful. Here is a list of inspiring words.

1. Worthy

Realizing your self-worth is important. Self-worth can really make or break a persons personality. Always know that you are worthy of respect. And also, never compare yourself to others.

2. Courage

Be courageous in life. Life has so many opportunities so do not be scared to grasp any opportunity that comes your way. You have the ability to do anything you have your heart and mind set to do, even the things that frighten you.

3. Enough

When you are feeling down and feeling that nothing you do is ever good enough, know that you are more than enough. And yes there is always room for improvement but when it comes to my self-worth I always have to remind myself that I am enough.

4. Blessed

Be thankful. A lot of times we forget how blessed we are. We focus so much on stress and the bad things that are going on in our lives that we tend to forget all of the beautiful things we have in life.

5. Focus

Focus on your goals, focus on positive things, and focus on the ones you love. Do not focus on things that will keep you from not reaching your goals and people that do not have good intentions for your life.

6. Laugh

Laughing is one of the best forms of medicine. Life is truly better with laughter.

7. Warrior

Through the good and the bad you are a warrior. Be strong, soldier.

8. Seek

Seek new things. Allow yourself to grow in life. Do not just be stuck.

9. Faith

During the bad times, no matter the circumstances, have faith that everything will be all right.

10. Live

Start living because life is honestly way too short. Live life the way you want to live. Do not let anyone try to control you.

11. Enjoy

Enjoy everything that life has to offer. Enjoy even the littlest of things because, as I said before, life is short. And plus, there is no time to live life with regrets.

12. Believe

Believe in yourself and never stop. Believing in yourself brings so many blessings and opportunities in your life.

13. Serendipity

A lot of times we look for things to fill an empty void that we have. Usually what we are looking for comes when we are not looking at all. Your serendipity will come.

14. Create

Share your ideas with the world. Creativity brings change to your life. However you chose to use your creativity do not be scared to show your intelligence, talent, and passion.

15. Love

The world is already full of so much hate, so love unconditionally with all your heart.

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Internet outraged at Delhi Aunty for Sl*t Shaming

Public outrage - justified or an overreaction?

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When the topic of sexual violence against women arises, women are often held responsible - because of how they dress, or how they behave, or even if they have a voice. A recent incident in Delhi showed that the mindset of people has not changed. In a video posted by Shivani Gupta, a middle-aged woman is seen defending her claim, "Women wearing short dresses deserve to be raped."

This backward mentality surrounding rape and rape culture is horrifying to see. The middle-aged woman first shamed them for wearing short clothes and when she was confronted, she told them "they deserved to get raped." She made things worse when she told other men in the restaurant to rape such women who wear short clothes.

Shivani and her friends later confronted this woman while taking the video. They wanted a public apology for her statement and followed her around. The older woman stood by her statement. Fair enough. They felt threatened by her statements and wanted an apology for her actions. The older lady, however, was brazen about her ideologies and refused to apologize. In fact, she threatened to call the cops for harassment.

The woman who made the regressive statements. Shivani Gupta

While the anger and outrage by the women who uploaded this video are justified, several questions are being raised on whether the older woman was later harassed for her statements. Public shaming is not the way to solve this issue.

"We cannot dismantle a culture of shaming by participating in it." - Rega Jha.

Now, I believe that nobody must engage in victim shaming. Nobody has the right to police the outfit one wishes to wear. It is astonishing to believe that even in the 21st century, people still believe that an outfit determines the morality and character of a person. That older woman was wrong to sl*t-shame the girls for wearing what they want. That being said, even though what that woman did was horrible, public shaming will not work. It will not change the mindset behind these ideologies. What that older woman did was akin to bullying. Publicly shaming her, stalking her facebook account or posting comments or by coercing her, you are also behaving in the same manner of bullying.

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